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How to Respond to Questions About Ex
WestAussieGirl:
--- Quote from: TootsNYC on May 23, 2012, 08:56:27 AM ---
--- Quote from: WestAussieGirl on May 23, 2012, 08:04:03 AM --- a guy from work said my husband must be really happy because his football team had a big win.
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Does no one at your office know about the split?
I'd ask someone sensible to sort of spread the word around, along w/ info that says, "don't badger her about it, it's a sensitive subject, but just so you know"
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Many people do know but it's a big company. And it isn't just at work, I have also had the same issue at school. It seems my friends are frustratingly discrete. :)
Bijou:
--- Quote from: WestAussieGirl on May 23, 2012, 08:04:03 AM ---As some of you know, my husband left me just before Christmas. I have since found out that it was for another (much younger) woman. All of my friends and family obviously know by now. My problem is how to deal with the casual enquiries about him.
For example, today a guy from work said my husband must be really happy because his football team had a big win. I didn't want to make him feel uncomfortable by saying "he's not my husband anymore" so I just sort of bean-dipped. Now I feel bad for lying and think he'll feel worse if and when he does hear about it.
So, how do you answer a question when you know the truth is going to make the person feel bad for asking (even though they had no way of knowing it was a sore spot)?
I am still heartbroken so it's very difficult for me to play it off lightly beyond a few words.
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You handled the question with grace.
ShadesOfGrey:
I think you handled it perfectly, actually. I wouldnt say the casual inquiry or comment really needs any sort of explanation or "truth" as you call it. A smile and a bean dip is perfect.
LeveeWoman:
--- Quote from: WestAussieGirl on May 23, 2012, 09:22:21 AM ---
--- Quote from: LeveeWoman on May 23, 2012, 08:12:27 AM ---
I don't have advice on what to say but I want to point out that bean-dipping someone is not lying.
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Intellectually I know that, but it felt like lying or at least being less than honest.
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I understand that but I get the feeling that you're being too hard on yourself right now. You'll get through this, WestAussieGirl.
(((WestAussieGirl)))
NyaChan:
--- Quote from: WestAussieGirl on May 23, 2012, 09:28:06 AM ---
--- Quote from: TootsNYC on May 23, 2012, 08:56:27 AM ---
--- Quote from: WestAussieGirl on May 23, 2012, 08:04:03 AM --- a guy from work said my husband must be really happy because his football team had a big win.
--- End quote ---
Does no one at your office know about the split?
I'd ask someone sensible to sort of spread the word around, along w/ info that says, "don't badger her about it, it's a sensitive subject, but just so you know"
--- End quote ---
Many people do know but it's a big company. And it isn't just at work, I have also had the same issue at school. It seems my friends are frustratingly discrete. :)
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Where are those blabbermouths when you need 'em huh? Maybe you can borrow one of the baby surprise-spoiling relatives from another thread :)
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