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Help dealing with FSIL UPDATE #28
JoyinVirginia:
--- Quote from: kckgirl on May 25, 2012, 11:32:19 AM ---How did the rehearsal go?
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I want to know what happens after the wedding is over. Op, please update! I want to know which strategy works best.
LEMon:
OP, please stop apologizing for anything you do not remember or did not do. She may well be doing these things to feel superior to you. You apologizing, especially more than once, can only feed that. In the future, I would go with the truth. If you don't remember, start saying that. If someone else did it, say that.
portabella:
I don’t feel that whether OP remembers or doesn’t remember certain incidences or whether they are true or not true is important. OP should stop apologizing - whether OP remembers or not. FSIL is bringing up things for the sole purpose of jabbing OP and making OP uncomfortable. Rather than explain or even discuss the various incidences, imo it’s better to put FSIL on the spot by asking “What’s your purpose in bringing that up? I’m really confused.” After a few seconds of embarrassment, FSIL will most likely shrug and say something along the lines of “I was just making conversation”. Eventually FSIL will back off.
Raina:
So sorry I didn't get a chance to post sooner. Thank you all for your suggestions! You are a brilliant group of people and I bow before your wisdom.
The entire weekend was possibly the most disorganized and frustrating large event I've ever been to. Responses that worked really well for me through the Rehearsal Dinner and main event were:
1) Big smile, fake laugh
2) Blinking, smiling, and babbling something about her family's home state, food on the table, childhood stories of DB and me
3) "Whatever you need"
The purpose of this thread isn't to vent about SIL but after that weekend, I'd sure love to! Sigh. It's done :)
Best example of the weekend: after everything DH and I did for her, she and DB stopped by my parents' house on their way out to a bar to invite all the cousins out to go drinking with them, and as she was leaving, she hugged me and, in front of all my relatives:
SIL: "We've never really gotten along. Do you want to fight now for old times' sake?"
Me: Blink blink, fake laugh, "You guys have a safe night!"
I think my aunts and uncles were stunned into silence. I'll also be storing up several responses for the next time we visit, so thank you all again for your advice and help. It's very much appreciated.
LeveeWoman:
She invited everyone but you and your husband in front of you? Wow. That's just crass.
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