I know the sort of person Garden Goblin is talking about, with the 'friend zone' stuff. My experience pretty much matches hers with the sort of people who talk about it--but it is just my experience, not universal of course!
It's the same guys who say 'women just don't want nice guys!' The female version of this seems to be 'I'm too independent for guys to pay attention to me!' It always seems to be saying, at least to me, 'if someone's not attracted to me, it's a fault in them' rather than just...lack of attraction. There are plenty of people out there (nice, independent, and neither!) that I'm not attracted to, but it's never because they're nice or independent.
I didn't get the vibe from Reason's posts at all that he's like this, though. And I do think that if someone's reasonably good at reading social cues, one can pretty easily be non-creepy with compliments. It's just, a lot of people...don't read social cues, then assume anyone unreceptive is being mean and unfriendly. (Again, the thing with 'they don't like me, so it's something wrong with them!') I didn't get any vibe from what Reason was saying that he thinks women who didn't want to give him a number or chat with him after a compliment were cold-hearted, which is a main sign of someone doing this sort of thing creepily.