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Being asked for for a ride by a stanger

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--- Quote from: Outdoor Girl on May 25, 2012, 01:28:42 PM ---The city I used to live in had a woman who would jump into cars at stoplights and instruct the driver where to take her.  It happened to a friend of mine and he actually drove her because she wouldn't get out of the car!  Personally, I would have refused and not moved until she did get out, despite any line up piling up behind me when I didn't go through the light.  If I didn't have my phone handy, hopefully someone behind would have called the police and they could have sorted it out.

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My husband had something similar happen to him. It wasn't so much that he couldn't get her out of the car as that he was so utterly shocked that she had just jumped in and begged a ride off him he didn't know how to day no. It was about halfway to her destination that he realized her rambling was her attempt to negotiate her 'payment' for the ride (she still expected monetary compensation for her professional Scrabble services, of course!). He pulled out his wallet and opened it to show her he had precisely $1 to his name. At this point she started berating him for being racist and cheap and various other names--because of his skin color he was obviously flush with cash, you see. It was just hidden somewhere. This finally made him angry; he was unemployed, had been for over a year, and she'd jumped in the car while he was in the middle of the only job we had between us, a weekly free paper route that paid $30 a week that he was only out doing alone because my back was out. He gave her the dollar to get her to get out of the car--even then he had to drive her to her neighborhood liquor store to get that to happen.

He came home pretty upset. It actually didn't occur to him he could have just kicked her out of the car until I suggested it to him. Even after he got mad he was being too nice about it for her to take the hint.

 ::) I think fuddleduddle is my new favorite word....

Years ago, in my hometown, there was a homeless man (by a certain stoplight) who would jump in cars that had to stop there.  His victims usually teen/early twenties girls.  He would then refuse to get out of the car unless he was given $$.

My DM told us to always make sure our car doors were locked.

The police knew about it- but couldn't do much about it - other than occasionally post an officer there (this was prior to cell phones & car doors that automatically lock when the car is in drive).

When I was 18, I had two men jump into my car, as I was leaving a parking lot. They asked to be taken to Pond St.

They were drunk enough, I suppose, that this seemed a logical way to get a lift. Nowadays, I'd probably bolt from the car. Instead, I took them to Pond Street, where they happily departed, leaving only a trail of alcohol fumes in their wake.


--- Quote from: Outdoor Girl on May 25, 2012, 01:28:42 PM ---A friend of mine was driving from one location to another on a secondary highway for work.  She stopped to pick up a late teen/early 20's boy who was hitching.  She admitted later that it wasn't the smartest thing she'd ever done but it was broad daylight and people were expecting her.

So she pulls over to let him out where he'd asked her to and he turns to her and says, 'Wanna [fuddleduddle]?'  She was very quick thinking, glanced at her watch and said that she really didn't have time; she had to get to a meeting.  So the kid says OK, hops out of the car and she drives off.  Presumably the offer was in payment for the ride??

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Could be quid pro quo. Or it could be that since she showed poor judgment in giving him a lift in the first place, maybe - with any luck for him -  she'd continue to show poor judgement by 'fuddleduddling' with the young man.

But I don't understand why she had to show 'quick thinking' by glancing at her watch and saying she really didn't have time to fuddleduddle. Did she feel threatened by the idea of an appropriate response to an inappropriate proposal (looking at him as if he'd sprung another head while saying, "No! Get out!")? Because feeling threatened is the only reason I'd imagine responding like that - which is why your friend is right about one thing - it wasn't the smartest thing she ever did, giving him a ride in the first place.


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