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Shower Etiquette Question - If you don't agree with a shower what are the rules?

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Bijou:

--- Quote from: Harriet on May 25, 2012, 09:00:18 PM ---Rude, for sure. I really hate shower games but this sounds like the perfect opportunity for them. That would make the whole group have to get in on the game. I feel for the MTB; she must have felt more forlorn than ever after that.

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You read my mind.  This is exactly what I was going to say. 

Mikayla:
My take is closest to kareng's.  Obviously, it would be rude to not acknowledge the GOH but I didn't see anything in the OP to indicate people didn't do this.  Beyond that, I think guests are free to talk to whomever they want.  IMO, it's like any event with a GOH.

The other problem is a shower isn't an event to help someone build a support network.  Because of the circumstances, this doesn't sound greedy or gift grabby to me, but I think they were trying to combine 2 very different types of events with this, and that rarely works. 

ETA:  If they were literally talking past her (as in two people conversing with her chair in the middle) this is rude, but if they were forming their own little groups and chatting I don't see rudeness at all.

Twik:
Well, first of all, it is rude to leave someone out of a relatively small group as described in the OP. PARTICULARLY when you know that person is new, and has no acquaintances of her own to converse with.

And if you organize a party for someone, it is your duty, just as much (or more) as providing food and drink, to make sure that person is NOT left on the sidelines.  The guests were minor-league rude, the hostess was a major-league, All-Star, etiquette fail.

TootsNYC:
I agree w Twik.

And yes, I do think that forming their own little groups was really rude.

People have really gotten selfish in their approach to parties and other social gatherings. They have forgotten that it's their responsibility to help create the party when they are a guest.

And hostesses have forgotten as well.

I don't know what happened to create such a huge deficit in our social knowledge and training!

snowflake:

--- Quote from: RiverSong on May 26, 2012, 04:24:25 PM ---I'm a little confused by the title. Are you not agreeing that there should be a shower, or are the other guests?

Either way, it is rude to attend a party of any kind and not even say hello to the guest of honor.

I feel for the girl. I was in the same position 4 years ago, though not quite as far along in my pregnancy.

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Just to clarify this:  I didn't disagree with the shower.  Maybe it wasn't the best way to go about things but I think that it was a nice gesture.

On the other hand, I'm trying to acknowledge that maybe some people did disagree with the whole premise of inviting people who don't know the GOH.  After the shower when I was thinking, "OK, that was odd" I was trying to account for the fact that maybe the other guests felt the invitations were a little awkward.  Sorry if that was confusing.

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