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For the con-goers/costumers- is it rude to ask to hold someone's prop?

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Amanita:
So we've been having a discussion on another forum, about people who ask to hold a cosplayer's props. Some people suggest it's rude even to ask.
For what it's worth, a lot of costume props can be either fragile, expensive, or some combo of the two. And a lot of the time they tend to be hand-made, with hours of work invested in them.

I don't think it's inherently rude to ask- it only crosses over into rudeness if the asker won't take no for an answer, becomes snarky or abusive when turned down, or makes the request in a really rude or demanding manner (Gimme..hand it over..etc)

I don't take offense if somebody asks to hold one of my costume props- it helps that they tend to be made of sturdy materials, and on average, the askers tend to be those who come across as reasonable, as opposed to those who might try to run off with it, or otherwise abuse it.

Do you guys think it's inherently rude or entitled to ask, or does the line only get crossed after the initial request, such as arguing with or insulting the person if they refuse to hand the item over?

Glaceon:
I don't think I would ever ask someone that.  It feels kind of like asking them to break character, even if they're not necessarily acting in character.  I just wouldn't think to ask for such a thing.  Plus I don't know what it's made of, how it's held together, etc.  Maybe something will break or fall apart if you aren't holding it a certain way. 

heronlady:
I wouldn't think it rude... just... really bizarre.  If it's a really awesome looking prop I might ask questions about it but the more awesome looking the prop, the more likely it costed the maker big bucks to commission/create... and I don't like handling other peoples' expensive things.

If someone asked ME that, I'd be a little taken aback and probably say no regardless.  It's a question I've never heard asked or heard anyone asked so I'd be a little suspicious I guess.

Gwywnnydd:
I wouldn't ask to hold somoen's prop myself, but I might ask if they could display it for me to look at.

As a general rule, asking politely, once, and accepting "No", is not inherently rude.

whiterose:
No, it is not.

Not taking a no for an answer would be rude. But asking for it is not.

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