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When it's really time to defriend....

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Ceallach:
One of my FB friends just announced her engagement - complete with official status change, photos of the happy couple etc.  They look blissfully happy, he seems like a nice guy, I sincerely wish her well.

Buuuut, the thing is .... back when we became "friends" she was a happy newlywed!   She is a former coworker of mine and we kept in touch for awhile after I left that job.  When I met her it was just before her wedding (as in, a few weeks beforehand) and we worked together for awhile and then kept in touch for a short time afterwards. So I guess sometime in the past few years she's gotten divorced, moved on, and met somebody new.

I briefly considered messaging her some private congratulations, but I wonder if it will just seem a bit off.... last we spoke in person was shortly after *my* wedding!  (Five years ago).   I guess I hadn't realised how long it was since we'd had any real contact.  So I'm thinking it's definitely time for a quiet unfriending.   I honestly can't think of anything else appropriate.  A  post saying "Oh wow, last I remember you were getting married the first time!" or  "Wait, what happened to John?"  would definitely be in poor taste!!

Instantkarma:
I'm not sure what your question is? obviously neither of you cared enough about the friendship to stay in touch, she probably wont even notice if you delete her.

TurtleDove:
I don't think you need to do anything. I would caution you against passing judgment on her and making your judgment known. You have no idea what has happened in her life. If you cannot wish her well, do not say anything.

Ms Aspasia:
I agree that a quiet defriending would be fine.  Although you wish her well, there's not much to say after so long, as you've pointed out.

sparksals:
I'm also unsure of your question.  I don't understand why you want to defriend her.   I have plenty of friends like that.  If it makes you uncomfortable either befriend or hide her feed. 

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