A few things, since I haven't managed to respond to this post:
Zilla, I have worked in a number of different departments within different hospitals. I kept in touch with people. One of them knows Rachael, and no, she doesn't do what she said she did. (So that part of her story was a lie.) No, I am not a troll. When something like that happens, my first thought is limiting the damage or at least finding out what the damage is as fast as I can. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. What did happen in this case was that my major worry was proven unfounded. However, the situation was not resolved, really, as I still had not worked out what I should do about her to prevent any further damage being caused and without other people (Rachael excluded) thinking I was being rude.
See, my worry was this. She would start talking at me and I would do the eHell approved response of either silence or bean-dipping or "What an interesting assumption" etc. I would then get accused by someone overhearing this of being rude.
I thought that in my first post that I had put Social Services and in brackets "Child Protection" to ensure that people both sides of the pond knew what I was talking about. I omitted to do this. I'm sorry. I didn't want to use Social Services (SS) as I didn't want to confuse a mainly US board, if that makes sense.
Regarding what to do as regards the near future - well, that has been taken out of my hands now. We are travelling to see families over the Bank Holiday. I'm ecstatic about this, as after the whole competition thing, spending time together as a family is all both DF and I want.
DF's response...DF's not really surprised she's resorted to spreading rumours about us, and pointed out her complaints about us and others to our previous landlords were nothing more than fabrications. She takes one small truth and blows it out the water. He told me not to worry so much. Be that as it may, it is clear things around here are going to have to change. I don't know about a drink problem (I am aware of my defensiveness), but if it is causing any sort of concern about my abilities to be a mother, I am willing to give it up without a second's thought.
I don't want it to seem that I am either going there for the drama, or avoiding the place because of the drama. A happy medium would be just great here. And yes, as the majority of responses are saying to me, ignore, ignore, ignore.
I don't know what her intentions are, and I don't care. My intentions are to enjoy a Bank Holiday weekend with my DS and DF, and keep thoughts of her out of my mind as far as possible. She doesn't deserve the headspace.
I feel that I have covered the main elements in this post. Please feel free if you would like anything else clarifying.