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Now that Prom season is upon us...

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siamesecat2965:
I'm feeling nostalgic, esp since MY friends now have kids going to their own proms!  So I thought it might be fun to take a trip down memory lane; when was yours, was it in the gym, or hotel, or somewhere else?  What did your dress look like?  did you go as a couple, or with a group of friends? 

This is long, so I apologize in advance.

My prom started out to be a nightmare, but ended up ok. 

BG: I was shy, quiet and had little to no self confidence in HS.  I would have been perfectly fine not going to the prom at all.  My mother, however, seemed to think that I'd be missing out on some wonderful aspect of HS if I didn't go. Plus she had seen this dress in Seventeen magazine, fell in love with it, and thought I needed to try it on.  So out we go, and we tried it on.  wasn't for me, so we tried on some others.  Found one that was nice, but as I didn't yet even have a date, or was sure I wanted to go, we left empty-handed.

FF a couple of weeks, we are back in the store (Saks 5th Avenue) and the dress I tried on that looked nice, there is one left, in my size.  Mom buys it.  this was 1984 and the dress was $125, which was A LOT.  Carp.  Now I not only have to overcome my own issues, but find a date.  End BG

I didn't know anyone well enough at school, that I would have felt comfortable asking, and so I was stressing.  enter my BFF, who lived in the next town over, and went to the local CC as she was a year ahead of me.  She had a friend, who was a year or so older than her, maybe 20, who I had met.  She gets this bright idea he can take me, well, he can't but his older brother can. I can't recall if i had met him or not, but he was 22 or 23.  he then calls me and says "so, I hear we have a date for the prom"  I said ok, because back then I was a people pleaser, and if my mom had gone to the trouble to get me a dress, shoes, etc. and my friend had gotten me a "date" i was going. I couldn't let them down.

The day arrives, and back then you went to school, went home, and got ready.  that was it.  no day off for the salon, etc.  so i'm reading and waiting.  And nothing.  No phone call, no date nothing.  I had been stood up.  I wasn't upset for me, but more for my mom, because of the dress, etc.

My mom kept asking if I wanted her to call our neighbor, who was a jr. in college, and home for the summer.  I kept saying no, and I  was going to call another friend, ask her and her date to come get me, and lie through my teeth about MY date, he broke his leg, he had his appendix out, anything to make me not look like a loser going alone, because then, you either went CRIVINS! a date, or not at all.

I finally said yes,, call him.  He was/is such a nice guy, and he jumped in the shower, put on his dad's tux, and took me to the prom.  we had a great time.  he was tall and handsome, and although he had a GF, we had fun.  I had known him since I was 9, so not a complete stranger, but I am forever grateful to him for saving the day for me.  And on Monday, I got asked a number of times "who was THAT you were with at the prom????"

if this were happening now, I would politely, but firmly tell said date, I'm sorry, but that won't be necessary, but back then, I couldn't

QueenofAllThings:
We didn't have one, and I don't regret that at all. There seems to be SO much drama, social anxiety and expectations dumped on prom that I'm glad I didn't have to deal with it.

jmarvellous:
My prom was fun ... I guess.

I had a boyfriend who was in college and completely uninterested in coming back for the prom. A friend asked his girlfriend, who was also in college, if he could go with me, and she said no, so I figured I'd go solo. Then some guy I barely knew showed up at my house with a singing, tuxedoed teddy bear and a rose. I said I'd go with him, and we joined a group with a limo and dinner plans already set up -- all of which the date agreed to pay for.

I went to a department store and got a designer gown from the previous year for $20 -- another girl bought the same gown for $300+ before the sales. Black and somewhat poufy-skirted, but very elegant and strapless. I loved it (and it looks way less dated than most of the girls in my photos from that day -- timeless).

Dinner was horrid, a story I believe I've recounted here in threads about awful treatment of vegetarians. The dance was only memorable because it was prom -- the hotel's "ballroom" floor was too small for more than a dozen couples (from our class of 600!) to dance at a time. We had an ice sculpture shaped like our mascot and Costco-type snacks.

Our group went back to some girl's house where we all crashed on couches or the floor for the night after falling asleep watching "The Count of Monte Cristo" on her TV (we weren't a wild bunch!). My date's mom made us all breakfast the next morning.

All in all my favorite part was seeing all my girlfriends looking great and everyone being in a great mood. I'm glad none of us made a huge teen-movie-esque deal of it!

jpcher:
I went to Prom both my sophomore and junior years in HS when I was dating Seniors both years. I had a lot of fun, even though I felt awkward being in the younger crowd.

I didn't go to my Senior year prom, because I didn't have a date. I don't have any regrets. I got together with a friend of mine and did the girly-sleepover thing.

DD#1 and her BF#1 went to prom their Sr. year. Buying the dress, etc., etc, etc. was a lot of fun.



DD#2 isn't going to prom this year (her Sr. year) . . . She went when she was a sophomore and was dating a Sr. (BF#2 from stories past.) She didn't go her Jr. year because BF#2 had no interest.

I feel bad for her only because I see a bit of sadness in her eyes whenever I bring up Prom. "Mom, I've been to prom. Don't really want to do it again." I've stopped pushing for her to go solo or with another solo friend.

She is doing hair and make-up for 3 of her friends on Friday (prom night.)



I think a special dinner out and then movie night is the thing to do.



OP -- It sounds like you had a wonderful date . . . I almost wish I could fix DD#2 up with a date like him.

NyaChan:
Mine was fun, but initially a little tense and ended badly.  My sister convinced my parents to let me go on the condition that I didn't go with a date and my outfit was mom-approved.  So, I turned down the boy who I had a little thing with when he asked me.  After confirming again that I couldn't go with a date he asked my best friend who was also his close friend (no interest between them - she waited for her crush to ask her, unfortunately asked after she already said yes to this guy).  After that, we ended up dating for a bit (until I felt too guilty about breaking the rules and we went back to being friends).  Prom was about 1 week after we stopped dating. 

On the day of, my mom surprised me with a pretty corsage to match my gold & black tinted chiffon skirt w. black lace top (Mom grudgingly agreed it was ok since it had sleeves and a high neck to balance out the fact that the lace was see thru where the camisole didn't cover).  I went to take pictures at my best friends house and at one point he followed me into another room to give me a hug & compliment me, etc.  I didn't think anything of it since there were so many people there and we were all hugging/ and complimenting each other.  That was until my best friend came over and looked a little uncomfortable/sad.  She said she felt bad that she was going to prom with this guy since clearly he wanted to go with me.  I was pretty surprised since they are really good friends, would have a lot of fun together, and I know she wasn't interested in him.  Turns out, the silly boy who had been at her house a good 30 minutes before I even got there but still hadn't told her how pretty she looked or even that the dress was nice.  Add in her claim that he'd been staring at me since I got there, then followed me into the other room, she had eaten nothing but lettuce for 2 days to fit into her dress (self esteem wasn't too good right then), and I was feeling like a horrible friend  :-[  I still don't know if this was okay for me to have done, but I pulled him aside and told him that he was BF's date and he should pay more attention to her and tell her she looks nice and likes her dress.  She came up looking happier a bit later saying that he had complimented her appearance and it seemed like everyone had a great time for the rest of the night. 

Unfortunately for me, I went home with a friend I was driving to change for the after-prom sleepover at BF's house and pick up her car.  Why oh why didn't I just keep extra clothes with me??? My parents weren't at the house at first, so I had already changed into PJs when they walked in.  Cue "Why did you change?  Dad hasn't even gotten to see you!!"  Dad couldn't be bothered to be at home when I left but now was upset that I didn't come home and sit and wait for them (when I had no idea where they had gone or long they'd be).  Then when they realized I was going to the sleepover they got mad and rescinded their permission for me to go claiming that they didn't know it was happening and I hadn't told them properly (I totally did, they always claim I haven't when they want to change their minds about things  ::).  So after a loud painful fight, I spent the night on my own.

Still totally worth it  :D  That was a great party!

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