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Betting on the duration of someone's marriage
CakeBeret:
It seems to be somewhat en vogue to speculate on how long someone's marriage might last. I've been hearing the phrase "I'll give them X years" with increasing frequency lately. It comes across as incredibly unkind and judgmental to me.
As far as I've observed, the person saying this doesn't approve of some aspect of the marriage. The couple is very young, or the bride-to-be is pregnant [that dooms a marriage, don'tcha know ::)], or one half of the couple is deemed unsuitable, etc.
Do you think this practice is rude? Is it a know-your-audience situation, or is it something that should be avoided altogether?
DottyG:
It's not nice.
However, I internally thought it at least once. And ended up being correct.
TurtleDove:
Yes, this is rude and should be avoided. If asked, I think it is okay to comment that you see incompatibility or ______, but to make a mockery and place bets is rude.
yokozbornak:
--- Quote from: DottyG on June 07, 2012, 02:56:32 PM ---It's not nice.
However, I internally thought it at least once. And ended up being correct.
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I think many of us have thought it a time or two, but I agree that it's very unkind to verbalize. I remember thinking it when a friend got married because she found herself pregnant by a guy she hadn't dated very long. They have now been married for ten years and although they had had some rocky times, they have worked it out. It taught me to stop being so judgmental.
TurtleDove:
--- Quote from: yokozbornak on June 07, 2012, 03:06:29 PM --- It taught me to stop being so judgmental.
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This. The older I get, and the more life experience I gain, the less I respect those who are vocally judgmental. It makes me sympathize with those being judged, and make a note not to get to close to those being judgmental. Of course, the topic matters, but in general.
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