Hypocracy Ettiquette. Is there any?

[MasterofSquirrels]

If you know of a person that is hypocritcal all the time, do you call them on it? Or do you ignore them?

I don't have any specific examples, so, using the forum for inspiration:

On this forum it is frowned upon to throw your own birthday party. If you comment in threads all the time about how those that do are rude, boors, not fit for society as a whole, and then YOU throw your own birthday party, can anything be said?

Dollar dances are generally thought to be rude by most on this forum. You talk about how horrible they are, they are the worst thing ever! You couldn't imagine anything more uncouth, yet you have one? Can anyone mention it?

[White Dragon]

I think the most I would do would be to express my (actually probably very genuine) surprise and say something along the the lines of "Oh! I'm kind of surprised! I didn't think you went for that sort of thing."

If they ask what I mean, then something like " I thought I remembered you being frustrated with Jo last week for doing that."

Then I'd drop it. Asked and answered. Clarification, not accusation.

[MasterofSquirrels]

That's a good tactic. 

To expand on that:  If the person you are talking to doesn't acknowledge your question, then what?
Or, if they pull the, "Do as I say, Not as I do".

What if the hypocrite has no self awareness? Can one gently tell them?

[Danismom]

I'm not sure how well received it would be, but sometimes people include the link to the post where they expressed their disdain for a certain behavior.  If you feel it is important, you can include a link and then ask about the incongruence.

[GLaDOS]

I guess I don't see the point in calling them on it. They know they're being hypocritical, and you know as well. Saying so will only lead to defensiveness on their part, I'm thinking, and just bringing it up to drop it seems a little passive aggressive. It's annoying, to be sure, but I don't know of anything constructive that can be done, you know?

[MasterofSquirrels]

I'm not sure how well received it would be, but sometimes people include the link to the post where they expressed their disdain for a certain behavior.  If you feel it is important, you can include a link and then ask about the incongruence.

I wasn't thinking of the forum in general. I was just using it as an example as I don't have any specific examples.

As far as the forum goes, if I see an inconsistancy in a poster, I will just generally ignore them and thier "advice". I know in principal that should work IRL, but, I didn't know if there was a way to say anything and still be polite.

GLaDOS: You have a point.
I know there are people that are hypocrites without even realizing it, whether it be because they are just dense or don't see themselves in the same way they see others. There are others that just don't care. They do what they want, offer opinions based on their life philosophy regardless of whether they would do the same.

IF the person was the former, I think bringing it up to drop it, lets them know that they did *badthing*. If it's the latter, it most likely will do nothing but make a person defensive and the conversation will not be productive.

[GLaDOS]

Yeah.

I guess if they didn't realise what they said/ did was hypocritical, I might follow White Dragon's advice and do the 'Oh really? I thought you said you'd -never- blahblahblah and you'd disown anyone who did!' sort of thing.
Like WD said, I think if you did do that, giving them an out by claiming faulty memory or ribbing them about it playfully if you're close would help smooth things over.