I don't know where else to put this, so if it's the wrong place, I'm sorry.
I posted a topic a few months ago in Life...in general about my ex who I was considering getting back together with. I went to lunch with him to talk about it, but I could see he wasn't serious and I gradually stopped contact with him after that. Only, he kept messaging me online, and we would argue to the point of me telling him it wasn't worth it, and to move on and stop speaking with me. He would agree, except a few days later, this would repeat. He would pretend like the previous conversation never happened, and press me to get together or get back into a relationship. Like I said, I had wanted to stay friends with him, but I realized that couldn't happen.
For a few weeks, he hadn't gotten into contact with me, and I thought maybe he finally got the message. Let me just say I was as blunt as possible, telling him to leave me alone. The next time it was as if I hadn't told him that. My guy friend told me that the ex was playing a game and that I was reacting to it, so I stopped responding to his messages all together. Then the messages would get more sad, like "Why won't you talk to me?" "I really need to talk to you". There were never any threats.
Last night he called me at 12:30 am. I was sleeping so I didn't answer. This morning I wake up and he's messaged me and added me as a friend on Facebook. The message said "Please talk to me, I need someone to talk to." There have been no threats, but I am getting pretty scared. Is this valid? He's in the police academy (so far as the last time I actually spoke to him) and carries a weapon.
I spent 5-6 days a week with him during the time we were dating and he was never deliberately mean to me or to anyone else. I don't get the sense he will hurt me, but I don't really want to take the chance. Should I continue to ignore him and see where that goes?