Please Try to Give Opinion- I Need Help *updated just a bit*

[Trisha]

Thank you guys for all of your concern. My original idea was to report him to the police where he is training, but I hadn't saved the original IMs and phone calls, so all I have right now is one phone call on my call log (although I guess they can request them from the company- I usually delete my call log when it gets too long) and one message on Facebook. Waiting a few weeks to see if anything happens (if it does) will only strengthen it.

I don't know if you know this or not, IM usually automatically keeps a log as long as you don't change the settings. You can select their name and view the contact history.

Also, whether or not he knows already where you go to school I'd still block him from facebook, and myspace. Facebook has features where you make it public that you're attending events, he could see who your friends are and try to get info that way, he could also use it to learn your class schedule. I once had a girl "e-harassing me" through myspace, within 5 minutes, not only did I know her real name, a bunch of her friends and family, but I knew where she lived. Just from looking through her friend's info. (I wanted to be able to give the police the info if she followed through)

I don't say these things to scare you, I just think that there is no such thing as too much info in these situations.

[amaiaisabella]

With regards to the IMs, I'm on AOL and I don't believe the instant messages save. I have saved all the emails where he's asked me to be his friend though.

I think by now, he would have made a forward move. I have been receiving several private calls lately (I don't answer, usually because I am not able to catch them) but I don't know if I can attribute this to him. My machine, as mentioned earlier, is now on the automated greeting, so maybe he is just making sure I still have the number. Still, to be sure, if one comes through when I am with someone, I will ask them to answer and say it is their number. These calls are every 3 or 4 days, and only one a day.

I think he would have been more aggressive about it if he was still intent on "having me." What are your guys' thoughts?

[poundcake]

I think, that like some others have already pointed out, you're trying to rationalize this. He's being more than aggressive enough!

[amaiaisabella]

Hi guys,

I am not particularly afraid anymore, although I am annoyed when I get the private calls. However, a friend of mine (that he has no way of knowing) has also been getting these calls, and she is in the same area code as me. I haven't received one since Monday, though.

I understand what you mean about trying to rationalize, but as I have been consulting with friends in law enforcement, I know I can only update them and something will happen. I am just concerned with blocking him on Facebook, he KNOWS he bothered me. He KNOWS that I took action. With just rejecting his friend requests, it leaves it open for suggestion.