OP here. We're both lawyers, so pretty familiar with the potential for liability.
I make it a habit to ensure that I (or another responsible adult) am in the pool any time one of my kids is swimming, and I generally make the same expectation clear to my friends. That way no one adult gets stuck in the pool with 5 kids.....
I didn't mean for this thread to turn into Pool Safety 101 (although of course I appreciate the suggestions!), so I'm going to try to get it back on track....I'm sending out the invitations today! We're going to invite about 10 couples, and one family with kids the same ages as my sons. In truth, I think my kids (aged 2 and 4) get overwhelmed when ALL of their friends are around anyway.
Party will be from 12-4pm. We'll probably start the grill around 12:30 or so. Loose plan:have lunch, play in the pool, have dessert and wrap it up! So, the menu:
Chili & slaw (we are in NC after all)
Baked beans (I have a recipe for a really yummy baked bean casserole)
some kind of salad.... I make a good corn/black bean salad....might be too much on the beans?
likely a selection of beer/wine
Advice? Any suggestions for a really yummy side salad? I'm trying to keep it rather light -- am not a big fan of mayo-based salads like potato salad, etc. I have a killer recipe for banana pudding that I've been dying to make, but I feel like having that and ice cream is too much -- any thoughts on one or the other?
Thanks for everything!