This has happened to me a few times. I invite a friend to do something with me, and she assumes her husband was also invited. The first time, I asked my friend if I could take her out to dinner for her bday if she didn't already have plans. She said "Oh, I think Husband has plans on that night". I think I might have posted about that incident on here when it happened.
More recently, I asked another friend if she would like to come over for dinner. We have playdates often since we have kids the same age, and all previous activities have just been us and the kids, no husbands. Well, sometimes when we hang out at my place, my husband is around but that's because, well, he lives there. But it's not like I included him in our plans, and he generally keeps out of our way. So anyway, my friend texted a little while before dinner to say her husband was stuck somewhere and wouldn't be able to make it. I was surprised and glad because my husband had already planned to be out of the house, so it would have been super awkward if her husband did show up. In retrospect, when I was issuing the invitation I should have been more clear and said "do you and your daughter want to have dinner with me and my son?".
I'm just wondering if I'm weird or something, because I don't always assume my husband is invited to things. In fact, we like to do our own thing quite a lot, and often go out to see friends without the other. In the case of my first friend, I only see her when I go back to my home state to visit, so maybe twice a year. Since the time she started dating her now husband, I don't think I've ever hung out with her without him present. It's a little disappointing, but I'm thinking she's a lost cause now. Recently, she organized a "Girl's Weekend", and I heard that her husband was around for most of it. When I was back home last month, I called her up to see if she wanted to come over for lunch. She hemmed and hawed a bit, and consulted with her husband, who I guess didn't want to come. So she said "Oh, husband wants to take it easy today after yesterday's eating fest." Um, okaaay? What about her? I feel like asking if she ever does anything without her husband, but just said "oh, okay, well if you change your mind, we'll be here". She called back a little later, and said "oh husband said if we have some time after our other previous engagement, we can come over", and they ended up coming over for a little while and her husband just played on his phone the whole time. I just … don't understand why she can't go anywhere without him.
Anyway, to sum up: First friend = lost cause.
Other friends, be more clear about who I am inviting.
Any other tips/ related stories?