General Etiquette > Dating
Cute or Annoying? UPDATES pg 3,4
mbbored:
On Friday, I had a first date with a guy I met online. He was really easy to talk to by email and phone, but I was a little disappointed to see he was heavier, older and had less hair than his pictures showed. But, he was very nice and I'm trying to be more open minded, so I agreed to a second date. Since that date, he's texted me every 12 hours with updates on what he's doing.
Saturday a.m.: Thanks for the date last night! Headed to the grocery store now: I see melons are on sale. Yum!
Saturday p.m.: Had a good afternoon. Got a hair cut, then cooked dinner on my grill. Now I'm looking for something good to watch on tv.
Sunday a.m.: Hope you slept well! This morning I'm going to water the lawn, then clean the house.
I admit I haven't responded to any of his texts. I was super busy on Saturday, and didn't check my phone until just before bed. Now, I'm getting annoyed out by his constant monologue. I admit I've been single for a while, am fiercely independent, and don't feel like I should be accountable for all my time to somebody I just met. However, when I mentioned it to a girlfriend who usually has good judgment in these things, she thought it was adorable and romantic. She also thinks I'm being too picky and should totally go on a second date with him.
What does eHell think? Would you be flattered or totally annoyed?
Nikko-chan:
I'd be annoyed. You just met the guy in real life for crying out loud. He does not need to be texting so much.
diesel_darlin:
I am with Nikko-chan. That would bug the ever living crud out of me. But I was also the fiercely independent type before DH. I wouldnt mind the text about the date the previous evening. But why does he feel the need to text you about getting a hair cut??? I do think the Sunday text was kind of cute. If he would have stopped at "hope you slept well"!
MsMarjorie:
I think that if you liked him more it would be cute but you don't really fancy him so its probably annoying. I guess that's your clue as to whether to go on another date with him!
Ceallach:
Um, even my DH doesn't keep in that type of contact with me! Seriously! We have a very close, loving relationship - but if we're not together for a few days we don't need running commentary on what the other is doing.
It seems to me that this guy is quite lonely and possibly a little socially inept. If he wants to strike up a conversation he should be asking YOU questions, e.g. "Up to anything interesting today?" not just giving a running commentary on the mundane details of his life. Unless he's done something particularly interesting I'm not sure what he hopes to achieve from this. I don't think it would be rude to give him a running commentary back to see what he says, if you're that way inclined: "That's nice. I made a sandwich, walked the dog and watched a movie". Then again, if that really is the type of communication he likes, he might find that fascinating.... I'm going to go with saying that this is a sign that you two probably aren't compatible. ;D Not saying there's anything *wrong* with what he's doing, but there's something not quite right about it also.
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