I'm sorry this family has had to deal with so much tragedy and then have it exacerbated by an insensitive minister.
My brother's funeral Mass was offered by a priest who gave a sermon starting with the wages of sin (death) and segueing into a rant about the misguided, or willfully resistant, folks who do not accept this particular extremely orthodox group's version of Catholicism. What a comfort to the grieving family.
The same priest would not allow any of the flowers that had been sent to be placed in the church or even at the gravesite, since he feels that they are "a distraction." Guess he didn't want anyone to have anything to focus on other than his harangue.
wanted to give him a piece of my mind. However, I behaved myself, offered a prayer of gratitude that I do not live there and will likely not have to see him ever again, and decided to keep my mouth shut so SIL would not have to suffer any repercussions. I don't know how she bears the repression of that town and that belief system, but she chose to live there so i guess she's ok with it.