Oh wise EHellions, I come to you with this quandry. My Sister is on my case about how my Sweetie and I were rude to my Dad and while I disagree, it never hurts to seek a second opinion.
This past weekend my Sweetie and I were hanging out at my parent's place. Note that we are both in our 20s and have been together for nearly 6 years. So we were sitting at the kitchen table, nibbling on snacks and talking when my dad comes in.
The Eurocup soccer game is starting and he asks that we come watch the opening rituals with him (namely the singing of the national anthems). I say "No, thank you" and turn back to the conversation. He then addresses my Sweetie, asking him to come and watch. Sweetie politely declines. My Dad keeps asking, we keep refusing (I'm getting agitated at this point, it's not my best feature).
Finally, he stomps off and proceeds to turn up the volume for the national anthems. Sweetie talks me down from frustration and I consider the incident over.
Some days later, my Sister informs me that we were wrong to refuse my Dad's request. She tells me he is insulted that I treat my Sweetie better than I treat him (by choosing his company over my Dad's I suppose) and has taken it as a lack of respect for the head of the house.
Sister thinks that Sweetie should defer to my Dad, and do as he asks as a sign of respect. I disagree since I think you should never have to do things based on someone else's hierarchy.
So therein lies my question. Were we rude to my Dad?