For how it was described it doesn't seem that the issue would come up again with the friend. So, it might as well be left as is. Let her think you're a drama queen. Better that than handing her over your contact info and having it fly free into the wind.
In the future, and hopefully it will never happen again, I don't see a problem with a brief explanation of the story. The juicy bits, if you will. I don't find it odd or rude if you were to choose to tell her about the consequences of having your information handed out to someone you didn't know. If she feels bad, well, ya know... sometimes we get to feel bad about things in order to remember never to do them again. And you aren't necessarily telling her that she should feel bad, but rather warning her of what happened in your situation.