General Etiquette > Family and Children
Lots of family, lots of "advice"...kind of long
greencat:
Smile a little and say gently, "I'm not going to stay here while you make rude comments to me." And walk away. Turn away in your chair if you happen to be seated next to one of these boors and can't get up. I know the smiling and gentle voice sound like a stupid thing to do when you're going to be very, very angry at the person, but it makes you look a lot classier than yelling it and making a scene.
Mental Magpie:
--- Quote from: secretrebel on July 02, 2012, 07:55:37 AM ---Hey, Dark Magdalena, I was reading "Not Always Related" the other day and this post really made me think of you and your issues with your family.
Maybe not etiquette approved but I thought this response was funny to unsolicited advice:
http://notalwaysrelated.com/throw-in-the-towel-to-reason/22053
--- End quote ---
Now, I've done stuff like that quite a bit with my own mother because she knows my sense of humor, and Dark Boyfriend gets it some times, too.
I was making jerky the other day, cutting the meat, and Dark Boyfriend said, "Be careful."
I looked at him and said, "Wow, to think I made it to 24 without ever using a knife!" We both laughed.
With my other relatives, though, I'd get in trouble for my sarcasm. "Not everyone gets your sense of humor!" is what Dark Mother likes to tell me. Well, not everyone knows how to keep their stupid comments to themselves, either.
Coruscation:
I think how rude ths is depends on what tone of voice you can manage but I'd point out how boring they are. With statistics. It worked on my FIL.
"Yes. You say that at least once a month. DH and I have been married for two years now, so thats at least twenty four times, you've made the exact same statement using the exact same words." Use a polite tone of voice, sickly sweet smile and bored expression and wander off. They want your attention and admiration, deny it to them.
wyliefool:
Another tactic you could try--since ignoring has just resulted in boring repetition--is agreement.
--Coupled with the (innocent) assumption that they're offering to pay for whatever they're telling you to do:
"Eat a hamburger!"
"Oh thanks, that's so thoughtful. $10 should about do it."
--Blissfully ignorant:
"You look like a skunk!"
"I know, isn't it cool? Such beautiful animals!" [They are, too. Gorgeous.]
About the dog training, the best I can do is to tell them they understand 'stay' but only in Swahili.
Or, there's always 'OK then' and wandering off to admire the potted plants. Bonus: plants don't talk!
Mental Magpie:
--- Quote from: wyliefool on July 09, 2012, 12:47:40 PM ---Another tactic you could try--since ignoring has just resulted in boring repetition--is agreement.
--Coupled with the (innocent) assumption that they're offering to pay for whatever they're telling you to do:
"Eat a hamburger!"
"Oh thanks, that's so thoughtful. $10 should about do it."
--Blissfully ignorant:
"You look like a skunk!"
"I know, isn't it cool? Such beautiful animals!" [They are, too. Gorgeous.]
About the dog training, the best I can do is to tell them they understand 'stay' but only in Swahili.
Or, there's always 'OK then' and wandering off to admire the potted plants. Bonus: plants don't talk!
--- End quote ---
I like this tactic! I think I shall try it in future! Those sound like things I would say.
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