So yet another question from the internship front -- I have mixed feelings on this one and wanted to hear what y'all thought. All people involved are at the same internship as I am. These two girls, Serena and Elizabeth are actually roommates as well at the housing that was on our list of places where we could get a discount for the summer. They did not know each other prior to coming here for the summer.
Elizabeth tends to be standoffish. She will often just disappear with no notice (once for an entire weekend) and flakes out when people at the internship make plans with her. For example, we all left for lunch one day having decided where we were going, we reach the place, and all of the sudden Elizabeth is gone, apparently having decided she no longer wanted to eat with us. Elizabeth does not invite Serena to any of her social activities, but will often ask her to use her +1 to internship events to get in another one of her own friends (of course Elizabeth says no because that would make her look bad to her potential employers). When Serena has plans and Elizabeth does not, she will call and text her multiple times - 5 calls in 2 hours once when she knew Serena was at a work event for her division. Elizabeth also seems to expect Serena to wake her up in the morning as she uses no alarm and only gets up when Serena calls out to her worried that she only has 10 minutes before she would HAVE to leave - then gets upset that Serena won't wait for her.
Serena is not an angel either by any means (are any of us really?
). I know all these things because she harps on them to me constantly, yet won't do anything to fix them like telling Elizabeth that she can't be responsible for waking her up every day. She also edited a paper for Elizabeth once and came into my office and pretty much lambasted it. As it happens I had edited one for her as well so I know the criticism was on point (there were literally floating fragments of a sentence, no spell check, citations completely wrong if they were there at all), but I felt that was inappropriate and breaks a certain sense of confidentiality I feel is implicit in showing someone your work and asking for their help in fixing it. Serena still hangs out with Elizabeth and they appear to be quite friendly to each other's face.
Anyways, this was all background to show that there are tensions beyond the techno issue that may be spilling into it. Elizabeth is a blogger. She has told Serena that she blogs extensively about her personal, school, and work life including the people in it. Then she told Serena that she would not allow her to read the blog or know the name so that she could not look it up. Serena is now irritated because she fears that Elizabeth is writing negatively about her. She says that it is rude to write about her without permission and then even more rude to refuse to let her see what she is writing. I don't think she actually knows that she appears in the blog, but seems to be assuming that since she is not allowed to see it, Elizabeth is hiding something as she did explicitly state that she wasn't telling anyone at the office about it so that she could avoid any trouble it might cause.
Now I think writing a blog about your place of work is just a bad idea all around if you don't have your work's permission and approval. However, I don't really agree with the stance Serena is taking that it is absolutely rude to write about a person you know without their permission. I can see why she is worried though because nothing on the internet stays hidden forever. What do you guys think?