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Re: Dear Abby: Dinner Guest Grows Weary of Catering to Her Hostess 7/8/12
« Reply #15 on: July 10, 2012, 12:21:23 AM »
The mixing is not important to me.

To me, what is important is that this "hostess" is demanding that certain guests do her job.


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Re: Dear Abby: Dinner Guest Grows Weary of Catering to Her Hostess 7/8/12
« Reply #16 on: July 11, 2012, 07:54:52 AM »
The mixing is not important to me.

To me, what is important is that this "hostess" is demanding that certain guests do her job.

I agree. If you host you host, you don't use your guests as labour.

And potluck is just that, potluck. You get what people bring, you don't go assigning dishes to them.
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Re: Dear Abby: Dinner Guest Grows Weary of Catering to Her Hostess 7/8/12
« Reply #17 on: July 11, 2012, 10:08:03 PM »
I'd go buy some pre-baked cupcakes, a jar of canned frosting, and beg use of a knife from the "host."

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Re: Dear Abby: Dinner Guest Grows Weary of Catering to Her Hostess 7/8/12
« Reply #18 on: July 12, 2012, 02:40:45 PM »
Evil Daisy wouldn't bring any item of food or beverage and opt for flowers or little soaps or something inedible for a hostess gift. Let the hostess hem and haw about that one -- she'll appear rude and ungrateful if she expresses any disappointment about the gift. Bad evil Daisy  >:D 

I don't mind as much at a true potluck if the organizer asks me to bring something specific or within a category -- like "please bring an appetizer, but just so you know Betty is already bringing a veggie tray and Wilma said she'd make hummus." I don't want to eat 5 dishes of the same thing anymore than anyone else does. The only exception would be if I was asked to bring something completely out of my budget, too time intensive, or I can't stand to eat it myself -- but I have no problem stating that and asking if the organizer could suggest something else. Luckily I've never run across that issue.
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Re: Dear Abby: Dinner Guest Grows Weary of Catering to Her Hostess 7/8/12
« Reply #19 on: July 12, 2012, 03:54:15 PM »
Evil Daisy wouldn't bring any item of food or beverage and opt for flowers or little soaps or something inedible for a hostess gift. Let the hostess hem and haw about that one -- she'll appear rude and ungrateful if she expresses any disappointment about the gift. Bad evil Daisy  >:D 

Bonus points if the little soaps are shaped like colorful fruits and could easily be mistaken for marzipan!