Get some perforated sheets of address sticky labels printed up and give them to your parents.
Then when people try to hand them your card, have them hand over one of the sticky labels and say "oh, some people didnt get the change of address for Itza, if you use this label and pop it into the post then itll find its way to the right house".
Thatís a really good idea. I was just going to give my parents some of the ĎWe Have Movedí sheets I made on the computer to hand to them relatives but thatíd still mean the person stood there would have an envelope to address so, next week, when the adhesive labels I have become reunited with the printer my husband has, Iíll print some off and send them to my parents as well as the sheets Iíve already given them. That way, they can give the relative the label for the envelope and the sheet for their address book.
Also, Iíve stressed to my parents that when the relative tries to hand the card over, they must not
take it off them because the relative might then assume at that point that my parents will take responsibility for paying postage. I know that seems like an interesting assumption but I think in some cases, people donít realise what theyíre really asking until the Ďhot potatoí (the hot potato being responsibility for something) is given back to them.
I like all of the suggestions, but what about having your parents say (esp. to repeat offenders) "We will be glad to give this to her WHEN WE SEE HER, probably in "date-six-months-from-now"...you don't mind if she gets it that late, do you???" That puts it back on them.
Kind of like:-
Relative: Hereís your card... and, would mind giving this to Itza, please?
Parents: Oh, Iím sorry, weíre not seeing Itza this Christmas but weíre planning on seeing her next year sometime, maybe around June. Iíd be more than happy to give her then if you like?
Relative: Huh? What? No, itís a Christmas card.
It would be interesting if theyíd then dare to ask my parents to post it for them with their own card, thereby increasing my parentsí postage costs.
I don't know if this would work in the UK, but can you ask your mother to write "Return to Sender/ Not at this address" and send it back without having to pay return postage?Another option is for your parents to write your new address on the envelope (or keep some sticky labels handy). The UK post office will redeliver without additional charge on that basis.
Iím afraid none of these suggestions would work in this case. A couple of relatives are giving my parents the cards in person and therefore can be told but some other relatives donít deliver the cards using the postal system but instead plop the cards through my parentsí letterbox themselves. So, not only do they not have a return address on the card (we donít know who theyíre from till theyíre opened), they donít have postage either. So we canít use the postal system to return it to them or forward it to me without my parents incurring postage which they really shouldnít be paying for anyway.
With this in mind, itís finding a polite way to say:-
1) Hey! I donít live there anymore; I already gave you my new address, here it is again,
2) Stop expecting my parents to pay your postage; theyíre retired and canít afford it!