Happy Birthday Hang-up

[MissBrit]

My friend the birth control queen (BCQ) that I posted about in the other post did it again. Today is her 25th birthday and she despises the "Happy Birthday" song. There have been times in the past that we sang to her and she ran in her room and wouldn't come out. Today, my friend called and forgot that she hated the song. She started to sing to her and got to "Happy Bir..." before BCQ hung up on her!! When my friend called her back she wouldn't answer her phone so she left a message appologizing for singing to her. I always thought that no matter how uncomfortable you were with the "Happy Birthday" song you should just deal with it. When I called BCQ later, she acted like nothing had happened. So much for trying to be nice. Sheesh.

[sammycat]

I've never heard of anyone having an issue with the birthday song.   It was rude of her to hang up on someone who was trying to do a nice thing by wishing/singing her "happy birthday".  Just out of curiosity what DOES she want to people to sing when she has a cake or birthday?  Does she object if a group of people are singing it for someone else's birthday?

BCQ certainly sound likes an "interesting" person.....

[mumma to KMC]

I must have missed it, why is she called the BCQ?

[Clara Bow]

I'm not wild about having Happy Birthday sung to me. It makes me uncomfortable. Most of my friends know that and respect it (except for my crazy cut up of a stepmother in law). I don't know why people would try to sing to her if they know she doesn't like it. Though I think that she is overreacting....

[MadMadge43]

People who make a scene trying not to be the center of attention only draw more attention to themselves. If people sing happy birthday to you, you suck it up and deal with it.

And you most certainly do not hang up on a friend trying to wish you well. Before long she won't have many friends who are willing to go out their way for her I guarantee.

[MissBrit]

I must have missed it, why is she called the BCQ?

See the post titled "A Whole New Realm of Tacky" that will explain everything.

[sarabe]

On the other hand, if I knew someone really didn't like the birthday song, I would never try to sing the song to her...

[Bijou]

My friend the birth control queen (BCQ) that I posted about in the other post did it again. Today is her 25th birthday and she despises the "Happy Birthday" song. There have been times in the past that we sang to her and she ran in her room and wouldn't come out. Today, my friend called and forgot that she hated the song. She started to sing to her and got to "Happy Bir..." before BCQ hung up on her!! When my friend called her back she wouldn't answer her phone so she left a message appologizing for singing to her. I always thought that no matter how uncomfortable you were with the "Happy Birthday" song you should just deal with it. When I called BCQ later, she acted like nothing had happened. So much for trying to be nice. Sheesh.

Have you guys thought about why she doesn't want you to sing it to her.    She might be trying to save you from yourselves.   
Seriously, I wouldn't sing it to someone who was not comfortable with it.

[Alida]

Does that say 25 or 5?!

How can she be that old and not have learned that a little graciousness goes a long way?

[Venus193]

I also hate the birthday song.  My friends don't do this to me, but I think that letting one pass is appropriate, as this is probably unusual.  Your friend, true to form, is a dreaded Drama Queen.

[CrayonOutlines]

My friend the birth control queen (BCQ) that I posted about in the other post did it again.

You should tell her that all the COOL KIDS on The Pill love the Happy Birthday song!  That'll change her mind!   

[Virg]

MissBrit wrote:

"You should tell her that all the COOL KIDS on The Pill love the Happy Birthday song!"

Score one for you.

Since it was accidental (friend forgot, and left an apologetic message) it's a tougher call.  It could be that BCQ thought she was doing it on purpose (hanging up is rude, but hanging up on someone being rude is more acceptable in my mind), but when friend apologized BCQ should have accepted and apologized as well.  If she did and you didn't mention it, then I'd say all is well.  If not, then she gets e-purgatory at least.

Virg

[platys]

It's possible that she has very bad associations with the birthday song.  If my friends "forgot" that I hated a particular song to the point that I run out of the room to get away from it, I'd probably hang up too.

[MineralDiva]

Well, I think her reaction was pretty rude.  Perhaps you could call her either the day before, or the day after and sing the "Un-Birthday" song from Disney's Alice In Wonderland.  Cracks me up every time I hear it.

"Aaaaaa very merry un-birthday to you.  To you!  Now blow the candles out, my dear and make your wish come true.  A very merry un-birthday toooooooo youuuuu!"  LOL

[Rose2Bear]

Needless to say, this girl definetly has attention issues.

While it is possible for people to have problems with the birthday song, as venus pointed out, most people would just grin and bare it.  To make SUCH a dramatic to do about it suggests that she hates the song exactly for that reason - it gives her the chance to make a dramatic to-do.