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##### culling facebook friends via questionnaire
« on: July 17, 2012, 11:41:07 AM »
One of my friends recently posted a questionnaire called "I am cleaning up my facebook friends list" that has the following choices:

a) I am a friend and want to stay connected
b) I am a business/professional contact and want to stay connected
c) I connected to you but I don't know why. Time to say goodbye.
d) You connected to me but I don't know why. Time to say goodbye.

Is this questionnaire inherently rude? For some reason I kind of feel like it is-part of me thinks that a person shouldn't need any help "cleaning up" his/her facebook friends list, you should know where you stand with people without forcing them to answer a survey. And what if a person is on vacation and gets "cleared out" before he/she has a chance to respond? Of course, I may be off in thinking this-but either way I'm tempted to not respond and see if I get culled from the list.

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##### Re: culling facebook friends via questionnaire
« Reply #1 on: July 17, 2012, 11:54:27 AM »
I have a couple people that post those every once in a while.
Meh - I tend to ignore them.  Most the people on my FB know me in the real world (only about 3 don't, but I have "known" them on message boards for over 8 years.)  So they can figure it out.
Of course, don't have near so many on my friends list so it isn't that big of deal to me.
« Last Edit: July 17, 2012, 02:19:20 PM by gingerzing »

#### LB

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##### Re: culling facebook friends via questionnaire
« Reply #2 on: July 17, 2012, 12:25:25 PM »
I agree with you, Adelaide. If someone needs me to answer why they should keep me as a Facebook friend, then they don't need to keep me as a Facebook friend. And why am I the only one with responsibility in this decision? If you want to clean up your friends list and can't remember why you and I are friends then it's probably ok to cut me loose without a public consultation.

I'm probably over thinking it. With some people, I feel like they're doing this in hopes of getting a bunch of "Please keep me!" replies.

Interestingly, I never respond to these things, and I've yet to be cut by someone who posted one.

#### Jones

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##### Re: culling facebook friends via questionnaire
« Reply #3 on: July 17, 2012, 12:30:22 PM »
I once unfriended someone who posted one of these; basically it was "Well, let me just help you out and eliminate the agony of deciding if you want me around!" Later I heard she was hurt I had unfriended her.

Now I just ignore the darn things. They do seem rude though!
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##### Re: culling facebook friends via questionnaire
« Reply #4 on: July 17, 2012, 12:32:00 PM »
It's likely your friend didn't intentionally post this.  He/she may have simply answered this quiz on someone else's FB page.  Just answering it automatically posts it to YOUR page.  It perpetuates itself.  Just ignore it.

#### The Ricker

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##### Re: culling facebook friends via questionnaire
« Reply #5 on: July 17, 2012, 12:44:27 PM »
It's a completely classless attention grab.  I think less of people who post these things, intentionally or not.

#### Dindrane

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##### Re: culling facebook friends via questionnaire
« Reply #6 on: July 17, 2012, 01:00:17 PM »
I don't like questionnaires like that.  So far, nobody has asked that of me, but I'd probably ignore it if they did.  Either we are close enough that we know why we are Facebook friends, or we aren't and I'm not really going to care (or necessarily notice) if you unfriend me.

I know that part of my reaction to this is based on having been a member of a Livejournal community for awhile back when I was in high school/college.  People on Livejournal did this all.the.time and it got really old, really fast.  At least the times when I saw it, it was very much an attention-seeking move.  The answer they wanted was "Oh, yes, please, do keep me on your list, you're the coolest and I love your posts, and I love you even more!"

I wouldn't assume that was the response someone was looking for without some context, but the question still annoys me.  Even when done with the best of intentions, it still ends up feeling like a passive-aggressive bid for attention, or someone who is too lazy to actually cull their friends themselves.

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##### Re: culling facebook friends via questionnaire
« Reply #7 on: July 17, 2012, 01:03:21 PM »
It's likely your friend didn't intentionally post this.  He/she may have simply answered this quiz on someone else's FB page.  Just answering it automatically posts it to YOUR page.  It perpetuates itself.  Just ignore it.

She specifically posted it to her page. (Unfortunately, my mother has now done the same after having seen it on so many other pages. >.<)

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##### Re: culling facebook friends via questionnaire
« Reply #8 on: July 17, 2012, 03:30:41 PM »
My sister and a friend posted that just the other day. I'm going to ignore it.

#### cass2591

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##### Re: culling facebook friends via questionnaire
« Reply #9 on: July 17, 2012, 03:37:11 PM »
I've had 2 FB "friends" who warned people they might be culled in the next 24 hours. That irritates me to no end. Of course the inevitable "please don't cut me" etc comments followed. I replied that I was making it easy on them and goodbye.
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#### squeakers

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##### Re: culling facebook friends via questionnaire
« Reply #10 on: July 17, 2012, 10:06:37 PM »
At one point I had over 2000 friends.  Playing the games sucked me in bad.  Each game required you having 500 friends to play if you wanted to be competitive.  I got smart later and joined groups where people played more than 1 game so cut down on how many friends I really "needed."

Over time I stopped playing this game, that game and this other game(s) that was pulled from FB (not enough  coming in from it/them).  So I had hundreds of friends that I had nothing but a game in common with that we no longer played (cos some of those friends quit playing some of their games too).

When I got down to the 2 games that I can see myself paying .. err playing for the next umpteen years or until FB implodes.. I did one of those Events where you invite your entire friend list.  I said pretty much what the OP said was posted but with mention of the 2 games I play and people could keep me if they found me enthralling ;-)

People still active in playing game A, B or C could then drop me with no hard feelings, freeing up their friend list to people playing the games they played. Making room to add more people for that game as well.

People who actually got to know me kept me.  People who just added me to have their 501 and then had hid me from view (to keep their newsfeed showing real friends vs game friends) deleted me.

The other 1500 either play the same games as me, are related, are real life friends or didn't care to check out the Event.  Slowly I have been going person by person and deleting them.  People who no longer play "my" games, people who haven't been on FB for years, people who lost access to their accounts.. whatever.  It would have been easier if they had attended the Event and just unfriended me if they could but.. now I have to do it.

Just in case some other game comes along that needs me to have 500 players and maybe a game after that  The 5000 friend limit means culling.  Throw in the new algorithm FB uses to decide just whose posts you can (instead of letting me see what everyone is posting).  Oh and how having more than a 1000 friends can mess up some games (the gifts etc).

Now just posting that to see some sort of validation would be tacky.  Right up there with the slacktavist "if you cared about ... you would repost this.  How many of my friends will care." type of posts.  But to maximize culling.. not a problem.
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#### jedikaiti

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##### Re: culling facebook friends via questionnaire
« Reply #11 on: July 17, 2012, 10:23:56 PM »
I've been seeing them all over the place, and in EVERY case, it's because the person ANSWERED it, not posted it! And every time the questionnaire has far more responses than most of my friends have FB friends.
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#### MyFamily

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##### Re: culling facebook friends via questionnaire
« Reply #12 on: July 17, 2012, 10:46:13 PM »
I've been seeing them all over the place, and in EVERY case, it's because the person ANSWERED it, not posted it! And every time the questionnaire has far more responses than most of my friends have FB friends.

This!  My mom just did this because she her friend had answered, then my mom answered thinking her friend was asking and now my cousin has answered thinking my mom had asked.  Check the actual link and you'll see it's orgin.

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#### guihong

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##### Re: culling facebook friends via questionnaire
« Reply #13 on: July 17, 2012, 11:35:23 PM »
I just saw one and clicked on it by mistake

My FL is relatively tame, as I don't play too many games.  I may not know where all these people came from exactly, but I don't like the idea of "cleaning them out" either.

#### shivering

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##### Re: culling facebook friends via questionnaire
« Reply #14 on: July 18, 2012, 09:40:25 AM »
I tend to ignore most things like this on FB because more often than not it's annoying app that automatically reposted on the person's page and they aren't even aware.

If it truly is legit than it just comes across as a lame attempt for attention and I have no time for it.