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Am I on the hook to see this movie? Mentions the Aurora tragedy UPDATE post18

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guihong:
Hi, all:

This dilemma involves DS12's good friend, the same one who often asks for something to eat when he's at my house.  I cannot remember his pseudonym, so let's call him "Bobby".  Bobby was born in India, but is very Americanized by now, if that's even relevant.  His father is very fluent in English; his mother, though very nice, is not.  That may or may not even matter.

Almost two weeks ago, the buzz in our house was of course the new Batman movie.  I can't remember how it was said, but I could have said something in Bobby's presence like "When it comes out, I'll take DS and Bobby to a matinee".  Then Bobby's family went out of town for two weekends, but when they were home during the week, Bobby would try to pin down when we were going to the movie.  I just didn't know because it depended on how other plans panned out, plus DH was really interested but could only decide if he could sit through it on that day (he's recovering from an accident).  Both DH and I were a little irritated, since DS didn't mention the movie too much and if it was so important to Bobby, we felt he could ask his own father to take him. 

Of course, the tragedy happened and now I have even less interest in going into a crowd, much less that movie.  DS hasn't brought up seeing the movie either; he's very astute for his age and he might not even want to go anymore.  Of course, Bobby keeps bringing up the durn movie. 

Can I get out of this, and if so, how?  Can I:

1. Say nothing, and hope it  goes away?
2. Tell Bobby that something very sad happened and I'm not ready to go to a crowded theatre,
3. Approach Bobby's parents, give them reason #2, and let them take care of it,

Or am I on the hook?

ETA to change a poor choice of words

yokozbornak:
I would just tell him that you have decided not to see the movie at this time.  You are not obligated to take him, but if you did mention that you would, I think you need to tell him that so he won't keep asking.

atirial:
At 12 he's old enough to need a reason, so 2 might be appropriate.  However, depending on his maturity level which can vary a lot at 12, the tragedy might be difficult to bring up.

I would probably suggest 3, just so that Bobby's family know you aren't going to take him and can make their own arrangements if he wants to see the film. It is possible the reason his father hasn't taken him is because Bobby has told him you will be.

cicero:
i would go with 2 but also mention it to the parents.

Oh Joy:
How about telling Bobby that you've decided to wait until it comes out on DVD to see it, and he's welcome to come over for a special afternoon movie day when it does?

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