Hello, everyone. It's my first time posting a topic here, but I'm in a tight spot and not sure what to do. Sorry this is a bit long.
I have a former co-worker (I'll call her Emily). Emily and I worked together at a job at college for two years, and though we both graduated in May we kept in touch via Facebook. We aren't super-close friends: we've only been out together once, though we saw each other at school daily, had classes together, and chatted/hung out in our office break room.
Emily messaged me a couple weeks ago asking if I would be interested in going on a blind date with her husband's co-worker (let's call him Brian). I was out of town when she messaged me, so did not get back to her immediately.
Last week she messaged again, stating that she was okay if I didn't want to go out with Brian, but just let her know soon either way. I told her that I would go out with Brian and we discussed what dates I was free.
Emily messaged me again last night with the date and restaurant Brian suggested. However, I'm having *major* second thoughts. I'm a socially anxious and awkward person. I was under the impression that Emily and her husband would be coming with us, but apparently that's not the case. Reading back through Emily's messages, I realize that this is totally my fault: she didn't mention her husband, I just assumed it would be a double-date because she had once offered to have me and Brian come over to her apartment for a movie night with her and her husband.
Bottom line: This is making me overly anxious, I don't want to go, but I feel trapped because I already told Emily I would, and she already told Brian. I also don't feel comfortable going out alone, both because I don't know this man, he's apparently a couple years older than me, and no one I know will be with us. How do I message Emily back and cancel the date without being rude? Or is it rude to cancel and do I have to go anyway?
I would contact Brian directly, but I don't have his phone number, e-mail, or even his last name to find him on Facebook. We haven't finalized plans yet, so I feel like I still could cancel, but I need to do it immediately so Brian isn't too put out/upset. Help, please!