A family in our community recently returned from a 2 year period of living in China for work. We've known them for over 15 years and were very close before they left. The couple watched me when I was a kid before they had their own, and I baby sat their kids once they had them. The kids and Dad seem to be adjusting well, but the Mom, Shazie, is having some problems. My mom had already mentioned to me that Shazie had on multiple social occasions gone on and on about how much better China is and how our small town was so boring and the people so ignorant for not realizing how dull their lives are.
We recently had a gathering for about 6 families, so roughly 25 people at our house with kids included. Shazie and her family were one of the guests. The guys ended up socializing in the basement while the ladies were on the main floor. Our house has a kitchen that opens into a family room on one side and has a doorway with no door that leads to the dining room on the other side. Right between the family room and the kitchen is a double door to an enclosed porch where we have a couple of couches and a coffee table. The younger girls were hanging out at the dinner table in the kitchen and the "moms" were in the dining room - all except Shazie. She took her food and her younger daughter into porch and sat in the near dark, as in no light in the room except what shined in from the kitchen/family room area, eating and feeding her child.
I noticed it out of the corner of my eye and went and sat and chatted with her for a while until my mom came looking for me to make sure that I had gotten to eat, which I hadn't so I went to get food and then socialized with the girls again. During that conversation, just as my mom had told me, she started bashing our town and the people here that don't realize just how limited their lives are and how she can't believe that the same people are still here. At one point she even referenced my mom and I defended her by reminding Shazie that my mom has lived in quite a few different cities and countries which Shazie then accepted and apparently removed my mom from her list of ignorant people. After I left, she just stayed out there though her child had long since stopped eating and was just playing. My parents do not have a rule against food in the family room, there was room in the dining room and the completely empty family room for Shazie to feed her child either while socializing with the other guests or quietly if that was necessary for her child. Eventually she came out to get dessert, but instead of going to be around any other guests, she just stood behind the island in the kitchen and ate her dessert by the sink.
After they left, my mom said that she didn't know what to do and after having directed everyone to the dining room and gone back to tell her a couple times, Oh Shazie we are all sitting in the dining room, why don't you join us, or Shazie, there's plenty of room in the dining room and getting no results, she just didn't know what to do. Now I'm kind of at a loss for what was going on with her and wondering what should we have done. Everyone at the party rather studiously avoided mentioning her so it was like an elephant in the room and I felt really awkward about it as if we had messed up somehow as hosts
What do you guys think?