My mom has been Facebook friends with me since I graduated college, and hasn't really caused much drama there in all that time since my Facebook is extremely sanitized. But my mom is also very um... crazy. Most of the time everything's okay with her and nothing's wrong and she's as friendly as can be. Until, that is, she flips and goes on a screaming rant over the phone or chews me out in person over some tiny imagined slight.
To make things make sense, I'd told her about an event I was very excited to be going to on Saturday for weeks and weeks. She then told me Friday that I was expected to feed her cats and the bird over the weekend. My event ended up being canceled due to rain so I went early to feed the cats/bird and found her still at home, having not even left yet. We chatted and I helped her put things in the car a bit and left on friendly terms.
So that's the backstory there. This is a question about how to manage things with her on Facebook.
Later that same day I'd posted that I was disappointed that my event was rained out, asking if any of my friends had ideas for what to do instead.
Mom responds with just "feed the critters."
So I replied that if I spent the whole day doing that then the fat cat would finally be wider than she is long. It was intended as a joke, and since she's the one who makes fun of the cat's blubber the most I thought she'd just find it funny and move on. She didn't.
Instead, the next day Mom went on a very long rant about how I'm a bad person for making snippy replies on Facebook and how I'm a bad person for not calling her when she's not feeling well and it just kept going and going. This was right there in public on my Facebook wall.
This was after she'd called and talked to me on the phone thanking me for taking care of the animals while she was gone and gushing over how much she liked the stuffed toy I'd knit for her to give to a new baby in the family that I'd left on the kitchen counter for her to find. She went from super friendly to super crazy publicly angry in about two hours.
I deleted all of her comments instead of replying.
Is there some E-Hell approved way for me to respond to this kind of thing in the future so I can at least let her know that her rants on Facebook are public? My Facebook page is set to pretty absurdly high privacy settings, so it's not completely public in that the whole world can't see it, but her siblings are all friends with me as is my sister.
My sister is refusing to friend Mom and Mom keeps begging to be her Facebook friend. I'd really love to have left her rant up there and just told her that publicly scolding her oldest is why her youngest isn't granting the same access. I don't post anything that I wouldn't want family to see, so I'm not concerned with what she sees on my page. I just don't like that she commented like that. Should I go the way of the younger, possibly smarter, sibling and just un-friend my mom to avoid this problem?
Thanks in advance for any advice.