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RavenousEdenFleur:
Is there any specific etiquette to song selection, singing in the car, volume etc.. of music while driving with people in the car.  I discovered my friend likes to sing a lot to the music. Her voice is nice, but it would be nice to hear the actual song.It almost feels like I'm a captive audience to "Nancy's Karaoke Hour"


What if a song makes you uncomfortable? The volume too loud? Is there a nice way to ask as a passenger to change the song or volume, or not sing?

CaffeineKatie:
Since my husband and I have very different tastes in music, we decided early in our marriage--in the car, it's Driver's Choice.  Period, end of discussion, and it applies to all passengers.  It's worked for us.

NotTheNarcissist:
This is a great question. I too have a friend who likes to sing, but in her case there doesn't have to be music playing. She just starts singing at almost any lull over a few minutes. Her voice is nice enough but I am totally not used to it. I don't have answers to your questions.  Frankly I cant think of a way to tell her it's a little unnerving without setting her off. She's a little SS to begin with & a quick one liner about acapella or karaoke would probably result in a conversation that I would end up apologizing for whatever words I said.

Pippen:
Everyone thinks I am weird but I do not have musicon  in the car. Several reasons but not having to listen to other peoples singing would be up near the top. It would drive me nuts. The only person I can bear singing is my friends 2 year old and her 25 minute rendition of 'Twinkle, Twinkle Little Star'.

I live in an area with the worlds worst drivers. The absolute worst and you need all your senses engaged to deal with them.

TealDragon:
I was actually going to make a post very similar to this. I went to lunch with two work friends recently. The friend who was driving put on a Christmas CD. I don't really care either way about Christmas music, but our other friend was really distressed by it because her father was in a very traumatic accident and passed away on Christmas a few years ago and so she really does not like the holiday or the music and prefers to avoid it and really wasn't prepared to hear it in August. She very politely asked the driver if she'd mind putting something else in and explained why when asked, but the driver refused and said she likes Christmas music and it was her car, so the music stayed. I felt really bad and when I tried to say that maybe we could just listen to the radio or turn the music off and chat, the driver got very irritated and was kind of short with both of us for the entire rest of the trip. Driver friend is a nice person generally but sometimes has slightly SS tendencies, so I'm not sure how that could have been handled best.

With DF and I, we have an agreement that certain things are off limits because it's just not very nice to make the person you love unhappy and I don't want to listen to death metal or the random noises and screams he sometimes likes and he is never going to want to listen to country music, but other than that, it's driver's choice. Luckily we never really have problems with the volume and have no problem asking if it could be a touch louder/quieter. With most of my friends, we're just really laid back about it, but have pretty similar tastes anyway. I do have one friend that sings along to every single song, which gets a little tiresome, but since I rarely see her, I try to just make conversation and enjoy the fact that we get to see her and it's only a minor annoyance and she's a great friend otherwise. I guess I'm not too much help here though.

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