Jean Bean started first grade last week. In her class, the children have colored cards: green=good, yellow=warning, red=lose recess time.
Jean has come home twice now and told us she got a red card: Thursday last week and again today. This is a shock to me as she was never in any trouble (that I was told) during kindergarten or preschool. I haven't heard from her teacher, but I understand the reasons Jean tells me, and have discussed them with her (essentially, she didn't listen and distracted the class). I haven't had an email or call from the teacher, so I'd like to assume she feels it's under control, but I'm nervous that Jean will be seen as a troublemaker. (Two red cards the first week of school?? Ack!)
I don't know how to word an email that doesn't so come across as "Hi, I guess my kid is disrupting your class, do you need me to do something about it or can you handle a 6 year old?" or "Hi, I'm a helicopter mom and want to know what's going on to contribute to Jean's actions today."
At least, that's how I read them when I wrote it out.
Or should I leave it be and wait to see if she continues to get into trouble? If so, how long do I wait? I don't want to sit down at the parent teacher meeting in two months and be slammed with a file of problematic actions.
PS. I've mentioned on here before that Jean can get grumpy when she goes too long without food. The teacher totally understood when I told her, and I've sent fruit every day with Jean for a recess snack. Teacher liked the idea so much she sent a letter to all the parents last week inviting them to do the same for their kids...I think hungry grumpies is a widespread problem, but not the problem in this case.