This going here because it's dealing with a coworker. In my personal life I would just disengage and cut the person off.
A coworker (Bee) is currently on maternity leave and came in today to show off the baby. She and another coworker (Sandy) were talking and she said something about how it was mine or other coworker's (Hailey) turn to have one.
It's a very well known fact to Sandy and Hailey that I am not, will not, under any circumstances ever have children. For a variety of reasons. They know this because we socialize outside of work and it's something that's come up as a topic of conversation as Sandy has children and Hailey eventually, one day would like to have one or two. Bee knows this because she heard Hailey and I discussing it one day.
So Sandy says it'll be Hailey because I'm not ever going to. Which is fine. She's doing it because before Bee went on mat. leave she would always tell me "oh you'll change your mind!" or "I didn't want children until I met my husband" or "I didn't want children until I got pregnant" (...after spending thousands and thousands on fertility treatments). So Sandy was trying to shut that line of thought down without shutting down the conversation completely.
Bee turns to me and says, and I quote, "You don't want children because you haven't met the right man for you."
I am married. I have been happily married for a few years. She knows this, she's met my husband.
I kind of stared at her, blinked twice and said "I can't believe you just said that", then turned my back to her and made a work related phone call.
To be perfectly honest I'm offended. I don't think I did anything wrong THIS time, but if comments like this continue I'm afraid I'm going to say something not very nice.
So how do I deal with her? Do I keep saying things like "I can't believe you just said that" or "What an interesting assumption" and cutting her off by continuing with my work? Or is there something else I can say/do to shut her down completely?
And what about outside of work? The office as a whole gets together outside of work every few months just to hang out and enjoy ourselves, especially around the holidays.
I work for a very laid back company. Discussing our personal lives and our families is part of our day. And up until this person was hired we all got along pretty dang well. This one person is managing to aggravate everybody but her managers (she has different managers then I do, my manager rocks) and the VP (who thinks she's the greatest thing to ever happen to the company).