Aaaand it's not over! OP here again.
I had hoped that because things were quiet, that either Jen truly had quit, or perhaps was cooling down and seeing things in a more reasonable light. So I hoped against hope that either I wouldn't have to deal with her, or things might be a little bit better, if I did. Foolish and forlorn hope, I know.
Yesterday Jen responded to a group email, just a simple comment on a link someone posted, but that made me wonder if she was not truly leaving the club. And then, I found out that yesterday, Jen also sent a private message to the organizer of the event two weeks ago (Sandy, who Jen had previously mocked as "too pious" to participate in Jen's activity) - the one who, with me, had told Jen that yes, she could do the presentation, but that we weren't happy that at the last minute she was usurping the local group from doing it. In her message to Sandy, Jen called her unXian for making others feel rotten because of her jealousy.
I think that Sandy will probably block Jen's internet access to her. She's trying not to give her too much headspace. She also plans to avoid any club activities that she suspects Jen will be at, for the next few months. She just doesn't want to be around her at all.
New Question for me, however: since it seems likely that I will encounter Jen at club functions in the next couple of months, how do I handle this? We still hold joint office until next spring. For the good of the club there is work that needs to be done. I don't know if Jen will just act like nothing happened, or what. If I didn't hold this office and theoretically have to work side by side with her, I would pretty much give her the cut direct at this point. Since I do, is coldly-polite the way to go? I'm pretty sure it won't be useful to say anything about the issues, or defend myself against her charges that I am a bully. I could ask for my own meeting with her and neutral parties, but I don't think there's any use, that it will change anything. I am willing to do what I must to finish out our terms, and will conduct myself politely and reasonably, without a meeting. She obviously took away very little from the meeting about her and Tomas, and I don't believe a second meeting for the two of us would result in any change in her attitude.
Any suggestions? Ideas? Virtual hard liquor and/or Xanax? My stomach is just in knots.