I have had a question from a friend who has just returned to dating, about an incident in the cinema which she finds a little weird, so I suggested running it past the forum to see what you good e-hellions think. She thinks its odd, but isn’t sure if a) its because she has been out of game so long, or b) the cinema setting dark, quiet etc made it difficult to gauge. Sorry its long, I’m trying to add as much detail as poss. The main question is, would you find his behaviour odd or would it run a red flag for you?
Friend meets guy on an online dating site, corresponding via email text and a few calls since. Last week, last minute they decided to catch the Batman movie that evening as a first date. (Now, she admits a dark cinema, no talking, not ideal first date material, but movie was due to end at cinema, and it was a spur of the moment decision for the both of them).
She says they had both talked about having eaten dinner separately beforehand, met up for a quick coffee beforehand (going dutch), things seem good, and then went to the cinema to catch the film.
So this is where it seems to go strange...Friend decides to buy snacks to take in with them, a drink and some popcorn. Guy says he doesn’t want anything. Vendor says you can large for extra 50p, so she gets large in case guy would like to share some during what is a long film. When the guy sees the popcorn, he visibly frowns and gives her what she feels is an odd look. She asks him if he’s OK, he then acts normal and breezy again and she shrugs it off.
Before entering the screen she asks him to hold the drink and popcorn while she nips to the loo. When she returns, she says he was shovelling the popcorn into his mouth by the handful (again no biggie, its a large so there’s plenty to share). She says thanks and offers to carry her snacks, and he gives her the drink back but holds on to the popcorn.
They get in the screen, film begins and he is holding the popcorn on his lap, but away from friend. She reaches over and helps herself to one or two bits, he does the same. Then, she thinks out of politeness, she will take a handful and pop it on her lap (on her jacket) so she is not leaning across him all the way through the film. Again, although its dark, she says he gives her a frown as if a she’s taken a huge handful.
He “lets” her take another handful, but then puts the popcorn down, by his feet away from her. And there it stays all the way through the film. The odd thing is he doesn’t eat anymore, but seems annoyed when she nudges him a few times throughout the film to get a bit of popcorn. At one point she says she thinks he held the bottom of it tight so she couldn’t get her hand all the way in and only got a small helping, then back by his feet away from her it went.
The third time she indicates she would like some of her own popcorn again, she thinks he audibly tutts at her. Embarrassed, this is the last time she reaches for her popcorn.
When the film is over, they stand and go to leave and she notices there’s a good half of the popcorn still in the bag, as she bends to pick it up, she hears him in an exasperated tone, say “just LEAVE it!”. When she turns back to him, again he’s all smiles.
Its late, they say their goodbyes and hugs and go off separate ways. She says he has been completely friendly, funny and normal on the subsequent texts and emails.
What do you E-hellions think? Odd behaviour, a red flag or is she overreacting?