yeah, sometimes the things I read here make me too scared to get out there and date at all. But then I remind myself that few people will post just to say how awesome their SO is as there is no etiquette dilemma there
I'll also chime in that DF is pretty awesome. He's not perfect, but the little things haven't been enough to be deal-breakers. There actually have been several etiquette dilemmas, but I find I can figure those ones out myself and work them out with him.
So true. I sometimes look at divorce rates and despair, but then when I look around me I realise I actually know heaps of really, genuinely happy couples. They just slip under the radar because they're busy happily getting on with life! Whereas those I know who are in unhappy relationships
or who are unhappy with their relationship
status have a lot to share and need a lot of support, so they just seem more prevalent.
When I met DH I honestly kept thinking "Ok, that moment will come when it falls apart" and it blew my mind that the relationship
kept getting better and better every year instead. 8.5 years now and I still go "but surely everybody hits that point.... right?" But I'm not sure that it will, because everytime something isn't working for one of us (e.g. not enough attention or quality time, one of being too messy or too stressed), we fix it. And then things are awesome again. So I guess it would take something pretty big and unfixable to break us. Maybe having kids will do it! But I do think I am lucky because I actually found one of those genuinely nice guys that girls *do* overlook - because they weren't looking at the mountain bike track!
Which was one of the very boy-focused hobbies he was busy with. He didn't really date at all although he'd had 1 girlfriend before me. He started working with somebody I knew who invited him out one night, I snapped him up the second I met him and the rest is history. Now many of my friends are jealous because he's just such a great husband (cooks, cleans, earns a good salary, is loving and kind, handyman extraordinaire, and also is very adaptable and accepting - he has supported me through lots of life's little dramas). But you really just don't find that type of guy hanging around in nightclubs. But they do exist.