So, poor Mom is still pining for her ex-boyfriend. If I'm sleeping when she calls (FI and I work from 4pm to 11pm/1am, stay up till 5/6am, and wake up at 2pm--Mom knows this), she gets mad when I don't want to talk because I need rest for work. She tries to talk about other things briefly, like today, I asked her if she could give me the address and phone number for Nana's (her mother, my grandmother) old friend so I could invite her to the wedding. Then she sighs and says, "Oh, you don't want to talk about it..." Well, no, I don't, but I'm sympathetic and a big sucker for punishment. And then she says she's so lonely, and can't I just pray for them to get back together. I really wish I could, but I CAN'T. I gave him a chance, liked him, and then he betrayed the trust I had in him by telling another girl he loved her while still with my mother. I would've understood and wished him well if he broke it off with my mother before this. Though I understand she would've had a hard time with it anyways.
But anyways, she's giving me all kinds of threats and hanging up. Last week, she said she wouldn't give me a thing in her will and will donate the house to the Humane Society. Last time, she said I'd go to heck (um, I don't say curse words, not even the name of this site--please don't laugh!
). Today, she said she wouldn't go to my wedding because I wouldn't wish her well, so she won't wish me well, either. Now, this isn't new behavior for her. She's certainly no stranger to saying terrible things to me, and then acting normal next time. But I don't like it. I never have. Heck, she still occasionally brings up how I knew my grandmother sold her china (my mother was to get it after she died) and I betrayed her. Yes, I'm sorry I did that, but let's just say that my relationship
with Mom is perfect compared to her and Nana's... My grandmother didn't want her to have it anymore.
I'm babbling here... I'm sorry.
Anyways, I know I should give her an ultimatum because I don't want to be treated like that and don't deserve it, but she's all alone, and I don't have the heart to do it. All she has is me and her dogs. How do I deal with this?