No kiddding. Average first time bride in Canada and the UK right now is about 30 years old and the number of couples living together is growing pretty fast. In the UK 80% of newly married couples spent some time living together prior to the wedding. If we're only getting "excited" for the fresh, new virgins straight out of high school or even college, most weddings are going to be pretty dour affairs.
Don't get me wrong. I don't get terribly excited about other people's weddings either. But I can easily get excited or happy or any other emotion for the 30 year old bride with her 32 year old groom when they've decided that after living together for 4 years that they want to bring themselves even closer together and finally "make it official" I don't know why I should consider that any less special than the 18 year old bride fresh out of high school and her 20 year old groom that's in college or something. Or why the 25 year old couple that maintained separate residences for the 5 years of their courtship are more deserving of my excitement than the first couple. If we're saying that the excitement comes because the living together is the big change, then why aren't we throwing elaborate parties for everyone who moves in with someone else? I mean, if living with someone is the point, and marriage isn't the point, then why should anyone ever get married anyway? I don't think I'm explaining myself very well, but, basically, I don't think that you get to say that someone's wedding means less because they lived together unless you think that two people moving in together is worthy of some big elaborate celebration.
And, I also read that letter as the GMOG being a gigantic pill about the whole situation. She seemed extremely PA and, frankly, mean. And I don't think that chicken dinners and a hall is such an elaborate BWW that the couple should feel ashamed for having it. I don't think that GMOG has to be bouncing off the walls. But, it sounds from her letter like she would have a hard time spitting out a "Congratulations" and I bet that's what the MOG called her on.