</BG> I attended college in the Atlanta area (small, private women's college north of the city). I left to go back home to Florida, and after an 8 year span in Arkansas, I'm back in the Atlanta area again. Many of my college friends are still in the area, and I'm in touch with a few of them. One of them, S, is a complicated sort - pre-op transgendered (this is relevant), alcoholic, married to a man who is in the military (also relevant - I promise!) and dropped out of college and has sort of been aimlessly milling around since then. S was fairly close to me back in college, and we've seen each other a few times since then, and kept in touch online. We're not close, but having been a motherly type even in college, I was a source of support and caring for S long ago, and remain so to some extent today, but in a much more hands-off way. </end BG>
S is, again, looking for a new job. I have a good job, with a large well respected company with both retail and headquarters locations in the area. S has applied, multiple times, with my company, and now wants me to use my contacts to find a job. S is hard to employ (see - pre-op transgendered, alcoholic, college dropout with no career focus), but is willing to do most any job (see: married to a military man who pays for insurance, so benefits aren't an issue). I have almost no contacts outside my company in the area, and those few are IT related - and S is NOT an IT person, at all. How can I more firmly say "S, I can't make my company hire you, and I don't have any contacts for the kinds of jobs you're qualified for." I have used almost that exact wording, and have gotten yet another "do you know of anyone that is hiring?" message.
Incidentally, these messages, interspersed with "I'm bored, what are you doing?" messages that lead to me saying we're at home unpacking and S doing something else with someone else, are almost our exclusive conversation at this point. We've tried to get together three times since we moved, and S always bails on us. I'm not sure that even if I DID know someone that was hiring that I'd put my reputation on the line for S, based on the flakiness factor at work, in addition to all the other stuff.