It's funny - years ago when we first moved in and I met our neighbor, I admired the quality she had of telling people how she really felt, as I have never in my life been able to do that. I'm just not "programmed" that way. I was taught, "If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all". But, of course, there have been times in my life where I wish I could speak up and defend myself, but I don't have that ability. Now, after knowing her for some time (as a neighbor of saying hello and goodbye and trading pleasantries) and even in our playgroups, I've realized how ugly (for lack of a better term) that quality really is. It's hurtful and totally unnecessary.
I don't know how I'd be able to go about not including her on our playdates. Since there are other moms now involved, I can't speak for them. I'm sad that this has transpired and that now there's an awkwardness between us.
Funny thing is - my neighbor knows how thrify I am. I'm a coupon queen and don't buy anything unless it's on sale and I have a coupon. When it comes to clothing, I never buy retail. I wait for things to go on deep discount and/or purchase them at a consignment shop. But now, because I have this 'new-to-me' car, she's acting so differently towards me. I haven't changed, only my car has. So what? Why does it matter at all? It shouldn't.