There is a girl, Annie, who I met down at my campground two years ago because she was dating my buddy Alex. We hit it off right away. I think she is great, and I even like her kids, who are 3, 6, and 15. Over the last few months Annie and Alex have gone from on-again-off-again to mostly off to done for good. Or so they say. Annie and I have a lot in common and intend to remain friends even though she and Alex are not together anymore. Or so they say. With me so far? Ok…
Next month I’m going on a camping trip with a group of friends. We’re going to a place that I am sure Annie and her kids would love; but our trips are not the time and place for small children, even kids as cool as hers. Would it be terribly rude or awkward to invite Annie and her oldest daughter, Sammie, and only them? I am thinking of wording something like this.
I don’t know if Sammie mentioned it, Gish and I were telling her about Assateague Island. A group of us are going camping there on X date. Our trips aren’t really the place for little kids (or for Alex for that matter) but I wanted to invite you and Sammie if you are interested. I am pretty sure I have a tent you can borrow if you want, and we always have a lot of fun cooking over a fire and seeing the wild ponies, and there should be a great meteor shower that weekend. There are about 6 or so people going, including my friend Jake who I think you have met. Let me know if you are interested; we’re nailing down the details soon.
…? Is that ok? The littler kids sometimes spend weekends with their dad, so it’s not like I am asking her to leave them with a sitter for an entire weekend or anything; but is it ok to invite just her and the older one and make it clear that Alex is not? I adore Alex – everyone knows it – but he can be loud and foul mouthed, and when those two fight it gets really nasty. Also Alex and Jake do not get along at all, and Jake is one of my best friends and he does this trip every year. Is this making sense? It is early and my brain isn’t fully functional yet. If I need to clarify something or add detail let me know.