We have family all over the place, but in two principle locations. We spend New Year's with my parents and sibs (domestic, also Big Seasonal Religious Holiday) and Thanksgiving with DH's, in the city where we live. We see the distant (as in overseas) relatives, many of whom are elderly, once a year or two at most, depending (DH can do academic things there, helping to cover expenses and we can visit without using his vacation time, and sometimes I have business there, too), and nobody, at least in my family, is too young or old to learn Skype, social media, email, or how to send pictures or film clips. You can keep in touch better than you might if they lived cross town. You just have to learn about time zones and calendars. And, most importantly, you have to let go of the "they abandoned me" attitude, stop being PA, and actually want to do so.