I don't know if "don't question the Dame" is an official policy, but as she has the ability to wield an iron fist and ban anyone for any reason at anytime with no warning or probation or explanation, I have always operated under that as a personal rule.
The way you phrase it, that almost sounds more like fearing retribution from her more than it sounds like a personal scruple!
Thats because I'm communicating poorly
I think Knitterly and Iris explained it better in posts 73 & 74, and that whole 'her house' analogy. Its like ok we all occasionally have a disagreement or a gripe with a friend, but we don't bring it up at their dinner party. Well we can disagree with the Dame but we tread a little more gently, cause, you know, she's the Dame. We don't want to asked to leave before dessert.
but see, i disagree with the bolded, because there have been several times here where we treaded carefully, and no one told the Dame (who, i definitely agree, CANNOT be expected to read every single thing posted here). then the Dame came in, locked threads, and was not best pleased that no one had contacted her. she's available. she wants to hear from us. and i would trust that hearing from us includes disagreements with what's going on here.
from what i've seen, the Dame doesn't expect anyone to tread carefully.
" and i would trust that hearing from us includes disagreements with what's going on here."
An owner seldom wants to hear disagreements with how things are run:" if you don't like what is "A" on my site.. get the heck out" with "A" being a policy, a leaning, a tendency or whatever, is what I have gleaned from a few years on the 'net.
Simply because of the old saying: "Too many chiefs and not enough Indians."
As far as I am concerned any "public" post I have posted is fair game for the blog.
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While any post can be reprinted.. I am guessing Ms Jeanne would never post anything from the "I need a Hug" folder unless it was so "genericed" as to be unidentifiable.. simply because burning the people one hopes to have as participants and supporters would be clueless and dumb.
And she aint dumb.