She beat me to it.....

[ncognito]

I'm not sure where this post goes but I hope this is appropriate.

A few days ago my cat was hit and killed (somehow he escaped the gate or fence).  The elderly lady that lives 2 doors down (I am in a very small community in a very small town) saw it happen and was very kind. She stood by the road and cried with me (her cat suffered the same fate a few weeks ago) and then kindly lectured me about being outside in freezing weather in pajamas and no shoes.

The next day I picked her up some baked treats to say thank you but before I could deliver them she was knocking on my door with pumpkin pies. I was too surprised to offer her my gift then and now it seems odd to do so. I was thinking of sending her some flowers or something but I'm not sure what to do.

Any ideas?

[smarterthanu213]

I would go ahead and give her the stuff you bought her. Chances are, she'll enjoy you bringing it more than the actual treat.

[Chocolate Cake]

Giving her something back isn't quite appropriate in these circumstances (t i t for tat).   Instead, I would give her a "thank you" card expressing how much you appreciate her thoughtfulness and consideration during this emotional time.

[sammycat]

Firstly, I'm sorry about your cat.  Secondly, what a lovely neighbour - if only there were more like her about.

I'd still bake something for her and take it over.  Perhaps just tell her it's a thank you for being so supportive over the last few days.  Or maybe just invite her over to your house for morning/afternoon tea.  Either way I'm sure she'll appreciate the gesture.

[lolane]

I think that if you don't feel comfortable giving her what you've already gotten (even though I think it would be fine) you should still just right her a heartfelt note about how much her support right then meant to you and how you're lucky to have such a great neighbor. I know I personally always like the really heartfelt notes more than the "stuff" anyway.

[ncognito]

Firstly, I'm sorry about your cat.  Secondly, what a lovely neighbour - if only there were more like her about.

I'd still bake something for her and take it over.  Perhaps just tell her it's a thank you for being so supportive over the last few days.  Or maybe just invite her over to your house for morning/afternoon tea.  Either way I'm sure she'll appreciate the gesture.

Thank you. I can't figure out Shadow managed to not only get outside but also escape the fenced in yard. I thought we had took every precaution but I guess I missed something.

I thought about inviting the neighbor over but... well her grandchildren are the same age as my children (but she is closer to my grandmom's age than my moms) so I was afraid it would be awkard. She was so kind and motherly though and I really want to do something to thank her. 

Maybe I will leave a thank you card in her mail box and an invitation to drop by one afternoon with the grandkids. The kids would probable enjoy playing together and she could get a brief break from babysitting.

[Rose2Bear]

I think giving her some goodies (ie, the baked goods or maybe a box of chocolate) is a good idea, but now because she both shared that kind moment with you AND brought you something, a nice, heartfelt note would be very appropriate.

[duhrich]

If you'd like to invite her over, go ahead. There's no age limit on friendships!

[Clara Bow]

Give her the goodies, and tell her that she beat you to the punch. It'll make a good funny. And definitely cultivate a friendship with her, my best friend is twenty years older than me with a son who's two years my senior. And we are of different races...and we have a ball. Friends are friends regardless, and she sounds like a gem...
Sorry to hear about kitty. That's an awful blow...

[amiboo]

I thought about inviting the neighbor over but... well her grandchildren are the same age as my children (but she is closer to my grandmom's age than my moms) so I was afraid it would be awkard.

Age has nothing to do with friendship.  Really it doesn't.  I've always had friends of many different ages.  Right now I'm 45 and I have friends from 20 yrs old to a group of neighbors in their 60s & 70s.  I get together with my neighbors and play cards once in awhile.  I've always felt that age is just a state of mind.  Some 20 yr olds are older than some 90 yr olds I've known. 

[Bijou]

I'm not sure where this post goes but I hope this is appropriate.

A few days ago my cat was hit and killed (somehow he escaped the gate or fence).  The elderly lady that lives 2 doors down (I am in a very small community in a very small town) saw it happen and was very kind. She stood by the road and cried with me (her cat suffered the same fate a few weeks ago) and then kindly lectured me about being outside in freezing weather in pajamas and no shoes.

The next day I picked her up some baked treats to say thank you but before I could deliver them she was knocking on my door with pumpkin pies. I was too surprised to offer her my gift then and now it seems odd to do so. I was thinking of sending her some flowers or something but I'm not sure what to do.

Any ideas?

I am so sorry about your cat.  Your neighbor was very considerate to be with you and to bring you something, like she did.  I agree with Chocolate Cake.  I would not give the cookies, but would send a lovely thank you card.