Author Topic: what to do about someone who technically isn't breaking rules? (Read 3398 times)

DottyG · « **Reply #15 on:** January 05, 2007, 08:05:15 PM »

Quote from: Ko-Ko on January 05, 2007, 07:34:35 PM

At least until I catch her at something (something she should actually get in trouble for, not something stupid. I'm not sinking to her level).

You're just joking about that, right? Because you do know that, even if it were something that she'd get into trouble over, you'd be just as guilty of being a tattletale as she. It's not an attractive trait - even if the other person is doing something wrong.

Ko-Ko · « **Reply #16 on:** January 05, 2007, 08:22:46 PM »

Quote from: Dottyg on January 05, 2007, 08:05:15 PM

Quote from: Ko-Ko on January 05, 2007, 07:34:35 PM
At least until I catch her at something (something she should actually get in trouble for, not something stupid. I'm not sinking to her level).

You're just joking about that, right? Because you do know that, even if it were something that she'd get into trouble over, you'd be just as guilty of being a tattletale as she. It's not an attractive trait - even if the other person is doing something wrong.

No I wouldn't. Not unless she did something really terrible, like threatening me or something like that. Otherwise, I wouldn't tell a teacher. but I'll be thinking it. I'll be thinking very loudly. That'll show her.

Ko-Ko

Clara Bow · « **Reply #17 on:** January 06, 2007, 02:19:42 AM »

Don't forget to tell your guests what refreshments they're required to bring and be sure to strongarm them into doing the cleanup!
About Miss Priss, in my day (during the reign of the Tudors) a kid like that would have had her head twisted off. Nowadays, in our kinder gentler world, that's no longer the way of things (sometimes). Besides, it really wasn't nice to begin with. Effective, but not nice.
I think that I would be sure she didn't see me doing anything, but I'd also put her on the spot. Start making a point of snooping around her, act like you're watching her every move. Turnabout is fair play...and if you can't get anything on her, complain to your teachers about her behavior.
Don't sweat it too much though. She will get her little red wagon fixed, you can bet on it.

mindibrad · « **Reply #18 on:** January 06, 2007, 08:49:46 AM »

I'm reminded of a quote by the Honorable Mike Brady, father of Bobby, Peter, Greg, Cindy, Jan & Marcia:

"Cindy - when you tell on someone else, you're really telling on yourself"

IndianInlaw · « **Reply #19 on:** January 06, 2007, 08:54:37 AM »

Next time she does this, would you consider asking her "How does this concern you?" in a loud voice?

Twik · « **Reply #20 on:** January 06, 2007, 11:48:32 AM »

Quote from: sammycat on January 05, 2007, 06:25:37 PM

If it's any comfort most of the teachers probably aren't that impressed with her either. They'd probably like to scream at her to sit down and shut up and to stop wasting their time with this tattletailing. I liked the response of the teacher who said "so".

Speaking as someone who had a short but memorable career teaching, yes, the tattletales are one of the most annoying of the classroom pests. Yes, the teachers can pick up pretty quickly when someone is speaking up because there's a real problem versus trying to get someone else into trouble. Unfortunately, Lucy thinks she's getting an "in" with the authority figures, while she's actually bugging the heck out of them, because now they have to deal with all the minutiae she brings to the forefront, instead of getting on with the lesson.

"So?" is a great response.

Lauren · « **Reply #21 on:** January 06, 2007, 02:09:37 PM »

Problem is with some teachers, if you make a smart alec response you'll get punished.

We had a girl like this is year nine. She would tattle on everything. Out head of year was also our commerce teacher so a couple of us let her know about it. From then on, whenever this girl dobbed someone in for something they'd BOTH get in trobule. The kid for whatever it was and her for not concentrating on her work. It took our teachers about three months to break her of the habit.

Unforuntly there's nothing you can do, this is only something that teachers can break her out of. If she's 17 she'll continue doing it at college and will get a VERY nasty shock there. College students aren't under the same restraints high school students are and most college lecturers/tutors won't take that sort of petty BS.

In regardess to the maths homework, were you checking answers, or copying them? She had no right to say anything, but if you were copying them I can understand where the teacher's coming from. (sorry didn't quite understand exactly what you were saying) Until about Year 10 at my school, we'd have them taken out of our books and kept in the classroom.

Lisbeth · « **Reply #22 on:** January 06, 2007, 02:19:39 PM »

Can you talk to a guidance counselor or a vice-principal or principal at your school and say that you have such and such problem with Lucy and that your teacher isn't helpful?

And if she's getting you in trouble concerning your assignments, get your parents involved.

kherbert05 · « **Reply #23 on:** January 06, 2007, 02:24:04 PM »

Quote from: Lauern on January 06, 2007, 02:09:37 PM

In regardess to the maths homework, were you checking answers, or copying them? She had no right to say anything, but if you were copying them I can understand where the teacher's coming from. (sorry didn't quite understand exactly what you were saying) Until about Year 10 at my school, we'd have them taken out of our books and kept in the classroom.

I got the impression that she didn't understand the assignment and looked up the answers to work the problem backwards. It is one of the best ways for me to learn a new math concept - but I tend to see the world upside down and backworks. Works great for Multiple choice tests though.

Ko-Ko · « **Reply #24 on:** January 06, 2007, 02:51:02 PM »

Quote from: kherbert05 on January 06, 2007, 02:24:04 PM

Quote from: Lauern on January 06, 2007, 02:09:37 PM

In regardess to the maths homework, were you checking answers, or copying them? She had no right to say anything, but if you were copying them I can understand where the teacher's coming from. (sorry didn't quite understand exactly what you were saying) Until about Year 10 at my school, we'd have them taken out of our books and kept in the classroom.

I got the impression that she didn't understand the assignment and looked up the answers to work the problem backwards. It is one of the best ways for me to learn a new math concept - but I tend to see the world upside down and backworks. Works great for Multiple choice tests though.

That's what I was doing. I like to look at the answer to work backwards from there.

Ko-Ko

housewife2k · « **Reply #25 on:** January 06, 2007, 03:03:33 PM »

My math books had the answers, but never the work for the odd questions, as long as we could show work that would get the answer, we were fine if we looked in the back in order to work backwards.

I would ignore Lucy, if she calles you on doing something, and the teacher reprimands you, admit to doing it, appologize, and move on. I think her tattling is two-fold. 1 to get an 'in' with the teachers, and 2 to feel superior over the other students. If you accept any appropriate blame, the feeling of power is gone.

MerryRaven · « **Reply #26 on:** January 06, 2007, 03:05:16 PM »

Ko-Ko this kind of problem prepares you for life. There really are adults who do this in the work place.

I have employees who tell me everytime someone is 10 minutes late or spent 5 extra minutes on a break or (horror or horrors in a library) actually reading something when they are suppose to be shelving.

Now everyone is late once in a while, spends too long on break now and again and as the supervisor, I have been known to read a paragraph or two of a book that I thought would interest me while in the stacks.

None of these minor infractions are worthy of comment unless they get to be habits and then I counsel the person. The people who tell me though want 'punishment' and I am not sure why. I just say I will look into it and move on.

IndianInlaw · « **Reply #27 on:** January 06, 2007, 05:30:10 PM »

I was thinking that, a friend of mine had a father who was a capo in the Nazi concentration camps. Even though he, himself, was a prisoner, he would get special privileges for snitching on his fellow prisoners.

Man, he was a nasty piece of work.

Evil.

That's pretty much what she is doing, in kind, if not degree.

She's trying to curry favor with the teachers.

freakyfemme · « **Reply #28 on:** January 06, 2007, 07:11:48 PM »

Quote from: Ko-Ko on January 05, 2007, 07:41:14 PM

I don't actually have anything to say, but I think that by making this post I can become a jr member! Now how to celebrate? I'll have a shower for myself and invite everyone I know in the entire world to give me tons of presents. And I'll register for lots of expensive things because everyone is soooooooo generous and will want to give me lots of new stuff! Well, better summon my subjects to court... I mean invite my friends to my house. I can't wait!

Thanks for putting up with my weirdness,

Ko-Ko

Jr Member

Sorry, I can't go, I have a Lawsuit Shower to attend that day.

SunkissableOne · « **Reply #29 on:** January 08, 2007, 07:54:01 PM »

Can we say grow up? This Lucy girl really needs to get a life....it's actually pretty pathetic she gets her thrills from being a tattler. Seriously, as a teacher myself, I would probably nail her for being a tattler and not punish the person she was telling on....all I have to say is that karma will bite her in the butt eventually. One day she'll need one of those people she told on and they won't be willing to help her out. She needs to learn now that tattling won't work in the real world.

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