I wasn't really sure where to put this, sorry and please tell me if I have to move it!
It also could have gone to the "complete silence" thread since that has been my answer until now.
BG: I've been with my current boyfriend since a bit less than 5 months, and we had known eachother for a couple weeks previously.
I'm 24 and he is my first serious relationship
, I only have good things to say about him/us (well ok, he could take some work on his housekeeping habits
), so my mother is quite happy for me.
Due to a few things ( he lives alone I'm still with my parents, we're 1h appart..) I'm usually at his place a few days a week.
I've meet his parents during the hollydays because we shared the summer house for a few days but he hasn't meet my parents, yet my mother already loves him (it's clear that he likes me and take good care of me and has made me try a bunch of things that my parents never got me to eat).
We never discussed were we were "going" and what was our future, it all went pretty fast with us at the beginning and I think we're both trying not to go too fast now to not freak the other one.
The thing is that lately my mother has been running faster than the song and has made comments that go along the line of seeing us already married and with kids. She even called his parents my in laws when I mentioned something about them.
I don't know how to respond, I'm usually too flabbergasted to say anything. They're mostly off-hand comments and there's only been a few so it's not like I'm being cornered to get married and get her a grandkid assap.
I think I mostly freak out because truth be told yeah I might have imagined a future with him (and if they take after him our kids would be gorgeous
, and brilliants), but it's too early/soon for me to think about it. It's only been 5 months and I'm only 24, too young to think about that! (I am, me, I'm not saying anything about other 24 yold or younger people getting married if they were ready, I'm not) - .
So I'm looking for a nice phrase to kind of explain to my mom that this topic is not open yet. I'm a bit afraid that she would say something like that when he'll finally get to meet my parents (which would be pretty soon for a dinner).
And that I'll die of embarrassment and that he'll flee.
Or am I crazy to freak out that someone is seeing us so far ahead when we haven't talked about that?
(Actualy if he was to broach the subject so soon I would be the one freaking out. )
A friend of his already said something like "if you two ever have kids .." in front of us and we both acted like that had never been said (and I felt like I was burning up from being red in the face). It's wasn't pushy it was more like "we all know this is likely to happen even if you two don't know it yet".