I was friends with this girl Terry in college. After college, we remained friends, but she developed a severe drinking problem and would attempt to start physical fights with me and would try to pressure me to drink and drive and would also drive drunk all the time herself and she would come to my apartment and help herself to all of my food...there was no friendship at that point. After a particularly bad fight where she actually slapped me because she was drunk, I decided we were not friends, and we did not speak again after that. However, I never did get around to deleting her on Facebook.
About two years ago, she posted that she needed to rehome her cat because it had lost a leg and it was too much to take care of. No one took her up on it and she reacted in her typical fashion and threw a fit and said that if no one took the cat by a certain day, she was just going to let him go outside. I am the world's biggest sucker for animals and no matter how much I can't stand Terry, I did not feel right knowing that this poor animal was likely going to meet a bad end for no reason. I also had another friend who happened to want to adopt a cat and had no problems with a disabled cat. I sent her a message saying that she could drop the cat off with me and I'd give it to my other friend. She responded very gratefully and tried to ask if I wanted to get coffee sometime and catch up. When she dropped the cat off, she seemed like she'd really changed over the couple of years, so I said sure, we could catch up sometime, and figured if she still sucked, I just wouldn't see her again. Well, not a huge surprise, she flaked out and we haven't seen each other since she dropped off the cat two years ago.
Sadly, about a month ago, the cat died. He came down with some rare genetic disease that is unrelated to the leg, she has no idea that the cat ever had anything else wrong with him, so it's not like this would be expected, as he was healthy aside from the missing leg when she gave him up. Last week, she sent me a message asking me to catch up again. I really have no interest in that whatsoever and don't believe that she would show up even if I did agree to meet up with her. But since she did contact me, should I let her know about the cat? She hasn't asked about him at all since she gave him up, and she didn't really seem to care much about him when she had him. However, I cannot imagine not wanting to know and if I had to rehome my pet and it died and someone didn't tell me, I think I'd be upset. But I'm not sure if that's just me? Also, if I do tell her, I'm not sure how to phrase it, especially since the message would be in response to her wanting to get together again and I don't want to.