A little back story first: I am a travel agent for a large company and part of my benefit package is travel benefits. Its an extremely generous package, as I can travel all expense paid (except for minor extras) free for up to two weeks with 1 extra person, we just pay taxes which comes to a little over $100 per person (the total of the trip costing well over $5000 for two). For obvious reasons when this time of year comes around EVERYONE I know comes out of the woodwork because they want to be that extra person. This year I brought along a friend that I had known for a little over a year with whom I get along with very well, in hopes that she would be a great fit and we could do it again next year. The same person who prides herself on thoughtfulness and "old school" manners. I could not have been more wrong. She complained the entire time and did not really want to do anything but nap ALL THE TIME.
So two things I would like some feedback on:
I was a bit surprised that she didn't offer to pay for any of my "extras" (drinks here and there, cab fare, tips and what not) as a thank you. I was a bit miffed that something like this was never extended. I did clearly go over any extra charges she could incur and how much they would cost. Let me add she does make a good income and was way under budget for the trip (as she announced). I also happily paid for many of her extras. Was I wrong to think she might pick up a bar tab here and there as a thank you? She did thank me (sort of) after the trip with a off handed comment, similar to how a coworker brings me coffee in the morning.
Also my second problem is a bit more of my fault...I assumed she would be great to travel with so I have implied (before the trip) that she could go next year. So now I need to figure out how to get out of this, which I know is my fault. I just want to make sure she is not planning her yearly vacation betting she can go free with me again. So I feel I owe it to her to as a courtesy to tell her she will not be traveling with me next year so she has time to make other travel arrangements.
I am not mad at her I just chalked it up to a life lesson but I must admit I feel a wee bit taken advantage of.
ADDITION: It was a cruise. All meals were paid for, alcohol was not. She picked up her drinks and I picked up mine. Gratuities totaled $75 per person. The cab ride there was $15, which I picked up, the cab ride home she picked up but by the end of the trip I was pretty spent so I just looked at her and said, "you got this?". So the extras were shore excursions, souvenirs, drinks, the aforementioned cab fare, room service tips, spa services etc...you get the idea. I told her to bring $500 which was clearly more than enough. She had drinks and spa services so she was not short on cash or on some incredibly tight budget.
To add insult to injury she ordered room service for breakfast almost every morning (which I told her ahead of time this was the only instance where you would tip in cash onboard, I never order room service as I enjoying dining with other cruisers so I don't worry about this. Two of those mornings she was in the gym and in the shower so I received the room service and tipped the attendant, even though she knew it was coming because you mark the time you want it to come. This baffled the hell out of me, especially when she I would say your breakfast is here and she would plop down and eat it...the second time I told her she couldn't order RS anymore unless she was going to be there to accept it because I wasn't really overjoyed about accepting it and tipping him, but WHY did I even have to tell her this? (I already had).
The extras I picked up onboard which was specialty dining (twice @ $25) and some snack/treat stuff in port, not a big deal but I kind of waited for her to offer and got nothing so instead of making the situation uncomfortable I just picked it up because that is how my parents raised me. I just found it to be weird that she just sat there and let me, I got a feeling she felt somewhat entitled about it.
So that being said feel free to comment...