I have a relative, married couple, that I adore. "A" & "B" are fun to be around but evidently that only goes one way. I would see on social media that they were in town but they would ignore my texts. No getting together or even letting me know they were in town. It depressed me so much! Last January my hubby had it. He had me sit down and write a list of all we did and didn't do together. Then, there in black and white, I realized that the very few times we got together I initiated it, or I drove to where they were, or when we met up at a restaurant they were always late. Signs of me being their obligation instead of a joy. So we did a experiment. I did no contacting whatsoever last year. Nothing from them but a Christmas card with just their names signed to it.
The blessing? I had a neighbor down the street asking me to coffee, to go to the movies, etc. and I was always too busy. I quit ignoring her and took her up on an invite. Now I have a great friend close by! She really is a gem and we have so much fun together.