Last week we had a couple attend our second service and I found out after they'd started chatting with me that they'd attended the community cafe (free hot meal) our church does once a month. Now most of the folks who attend this are either homeless, living in a shelter, or have a home and are just struggling and they rarely ask us for anything, money wise. Only thing I've ever been asked for when helping out was help in finding a shelter, and one girl asking me for a quarter for the sanitary product dispenser. I happened to have some products in my purse and just handed her one discreetly.
Anyway, this couple set off warning bells for me when they sat next to me on the pew in the hall (Or fellowship hall has old pews lining two sides of the room for people to just sit on) and the woman started getting way too friendly way too fast. I mean, I'm an affectionate person myself but when someone I've never met gets very touchy, invading personal space and pushing themselves on me, I get a bit nervous, and she kept pushing for us to go shopping together.
Never asked me for money but when my youngest ran off for the snack table (bless him!) I found she'd asked others for money with a different story each time, or she'd ask for rides to various places. It didn't take me long to realize that when she wanted me to go shopping and kept after me about it, it was a veiled request to take her somewhere.
Interestingly enough neither of them showed up this week and one woman told me that while they want to help folks, it can really be tricky figuring out where to draw the line with the helping without being hypocrites.