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ladyknight1

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Re: S/O Beggars, Moochers and Scammers
« Reply #855 on: May 14, 2013, 01:22:53 PM »
I have a friend who posts "I love my husband" shares all the time with an insurance company's pitch at the bottom. I hide each and every one.
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Re: S/O Beggars, Moochers and Scammers
« Reply #856 on: May 14, 2013, 01:34:54 PM »
my favorite, which I post when the 'if you don't click Like you are a fan of evil spirits' posts start coming too fast and furiously from DH's family.  It shows a man standing at the Pearly Gates, with St. Peter checking his roster.  'Step right in...oops, you didn't 'like' a manipulative status, I can't let you in'.

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Re: S/O Beggars, Moochers and Scammers
« Reply #857 on: May 14, 2013, 01:59:35 PM »
I have been getting the phone calls where you pick up and no one is there. I know they are robocalls. When I DO get a real person, I let them have it assuming their company is the one making me answer the phone when there is no one there. Not a good business model.

I've gotten those... They usually showed up as anonymous or "unavailable" on my Caller ID.  I now have Anonymous Call Rejection turned on--and we'll see how well THAT works to stop the calls.  And yes, I'm on the DNC list.   >:(

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Regarding time share presentations, we have been to quite a few and somehow never managed to buy a timeshare. The "gifts" are pretty useless, unless you are in a casino area and they give you chips. My favorite was a promised "six piece luggage set" gift. When the spiel was over, guy came out with a box the size and shape of a TV dinner. Yep, the luggage set was made of very thin nylon. Surprisingly, I still use a few of the duffel bags.

I went to one of those presentations about 5 years ago and didn't buy a timeshare either.  (I pointed out to the high-pressure salesman that the monthly payment he wanted for the timeshare was the same amount as one of my monthly student loan payments, and he ended the spiel pretty quickly after that.)  I did get a $50 prepaid VISA gift card for my time, so at least I was able to put the "gift" to good use.
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Re: S/O Beggars, Moochers and Scammers
« Reply #858 on: May 14, 2013, 03:23:30 PM »
A guy rings my doorbell. He points to a van labeled "So and So Fine Meats." They do home delivery of really special gourmet meat and chicken. It seems that a customer was a no-show. The guy called his manager who suggested that instead driving all the way back with the delivery, he should go door-to-door and offer to sell stuff for half price to at least recoup the cost of driving around.

We have one of those guys.... except he's got a chest freezer plugged into a converter in his beater pickup truck, and a mouth full of rotten teeth (with torn clothes to match). At least yours tried to look respectable. He even got a bigger grin when he saw that I am a big girl - I think he thought I'd be an easy mark for meat of unknown provenance sold from a pickup?

Ours has lips tattooed on his neck. 
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« Reply #859 on: May 14, 2013, 04:19:14 PM »
I've got a friend who's a chronic moocher, and her family isn't much better either. They manage to scrape by, but due to various health problems, most of them can't secure regular jobs. Okay, I get it. But EVERY time Friend wants to hang out, I have to drive (out of my way, most of the time) to pick her up, because she doesn't have a car/can't afford gas/whatever. And whenever I get hungry, she mentions how hungry she is (despite having just eaten at her house) and can I get something for her too? Or when we get a big group of friends together and we'll all agree to go out to a fairly decent restaurant (not super fancy, just casual dining) and it's only when we get there that she'll mention that she doesn't have any money, and can someone cover for her? Um, I'm going to go out on a limb and presume that she knew from the start that she didn't have any money, and if she had mentioned it when we started planning, we would have changed our plans and gone somewhere where we could afford to all chip in for her, or gone to the store to pick up some things to cook at home. She "can't" get a job for various reasons, most of which involve the fact that it would take away from her seasonal job at the local sports stadium. At this point, I've given up trying to help her get a job and when we do get together, I'll make sure that it's somewhere where we're not going to be going out to get food any time soon and I can't be guilted into paying for her anything.

Since I've met my boyfriend, I've got a new set of friends who drive me mad. I don't make a lot of money, and neither does boyfriend. We make enough to be comfortable and know how to set things aside when we really want something. Traveling isn't easy, but we can plan ahead and manage to do it. And every time someone on New Friends' friends list on FB mentions traveling, they make comments about how it must be so nice to be able to afford to go on trips, but they can't afford their bills, and why doesn't anyone help them out? And how they feel pressured to go out to eat with friends because they don't want to be looked down on, why doesn't anyone help them? Oh, and the wife won't even entertain the suggestion of changing her (very low paying) job she loves it lol and that's not happening, so stop bringing it up. And whenever anyone does offer valid suggestions, she gets defensive over it. Recently she's taken to posting long rambling rants on FB about how nobody helps them and how terrible all their friends must be to want them to lose their house and cars because they can't pay for things, but please respect her wishes and not comment on this because she doesn't want a fight. I've ignored all of it. In person when it comes up I beandip like mad, but who even goes on FB to complain about money and why don't their friends chip in for bills? Is that a thing now? I'm seeing it a lot more often.

Luckily I've never fallen for any scams, but I'd love to get the Windows calls sometime, just to mess with them. Unfortunately for me, I don't answer the phone when it's a number I don't recognize unless I'm expecting a call from somewhere that I don't know the number (had insurance claims and got calls from all around the country for that), and even then I may screen calls.

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Re: S/O Beggars, Moochers and Scammers
« Reply #860 on: May 14, 2013, 04:32:21 PM »
^It's an unlikely source for life advice but I remember years ago in a fluffy novel I was reading an older woman said to a younger woman she was temporarily harbouring "Strive to remember, my dear, that no-one cares in the slightest for the problems of others".

I've always thought that that was particularly honest advice, that everyone needs to know. Apparently no-one has clued these two in.
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« Reply #861 on: May 14, 2013, 05:02:10 PM »
Saw this one this morning. People taking advantage of disabled people so they don't have to wait in line at Disneyland.

http://www.news.com.au/travel/news/rich-new-york-mums-use-disabled-to-cut-lines-at-disney-world/story-e6frfq80-1226642610144

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Re: S/O Beggars, Moochers and Scammers
« Reply #862 on: May 14, 2013, 05:25:07 PM »

Since I've met my boyfriend, I've got a new set of friends who drive me mad. I don't make a lot of money, and neither does boyfriend. We make enough to be comfortable and know how to set things aside when we really want something. Traveling isn't easy, but we can plan ahead and manage to do it. And every time someone on New Friends' friends list on FB mentions traveling, they make comments about how it must be so nice to be able to afford to go on trips, but they can't afford their bills, and why doesn't anyone help them out? And how they feel pressured to go out to eat with friends because they don't want to be looked down on, why doesn't anyone help them? Oh, and the wife won't even entertain the suggestion of changing her (very low paying) job she loves it lol and that's not happening, so stop bringing it up. And whenever anyone does offer valid suggestions, she gets defensive over it. Recently she's taken to posting long rambling rants on FB about how nobody helps them and how terrible all their friends must be to want them to lose their house and cars because they can't pay for things, but please respect her wishes and not comment on this because she doesn't want a fight. I've ignored all of it. In person when it comes up I beandip like mad, but who even goes on FB to complain about money and why don't their friends chip in for bills? Is that a thing now? I'm seeing it a lot more often.

I know people similar to that--they don't complain about friends not helping them out, but every other week there seems to be Some Sort Of Crisis that will require them to come up with hundreds of $$ that they don't have, or some Terrible Thing will happen (loss of job/apartment/educational opportunity/disability benefits/etc).

Most of their friends are far more generous than I.  They've probably managed to get several thousand (possibly tens of thousands) in donations/gifts.

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Re: S/O Beggars, Moochers and Scammers
« Reply #863 on: May 14, 2013, 05:31:38 PM »
Reminds me of the episode of Sex and the City where Carrie couldn't pay rent on her apartment so she got money off Charlotte when she pawned her engagement ring. And hy did Carrie have no money? She'd been shoe shopping.

I never understood why people liked her.

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Re: S/O Beggars, Moochers and Scammers
« Reply #864 on: May 14, 2013, 05:42:16 PM »
I hate the PA digs when someone gets to do something they have planned and saved for. I hear that all the time and marginalize those who indulge in that behavior. We are replacing our 20 year old car, because I can't reliably count on it running well enough to commute in. I am spending my money and what the old car sells for to replace it with something 10 years old. I haven't told anyone because I don't want the gimme hounds starting.
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« Reply #865 on: May 14, 2013, 06:56:07 PM »
SIL pulled another good one on MIL for Mother's Day.

SIL is always, and I do mean always, on facebook (FB).  Pictures, comments, adding friends, you name it she does it all.   April 2oth, 3 weeks before Mother's Day, BIL posts a message to DH, his siblings, and 2 adult grandkids that MIL would like some items that are on sale at local store to complete her dish set.  He gives a list of 6 items, one for each of us.  BIL gives the option that we can pay for it on line (we are the ones who don't live close by) and he will pick it up and wrap it, or we can have it sent directly to MIL.

Within a week everyone had bought something except SIL who loves FB (she is the family moocher... will come to a potluck and "forget" her dish at home, etc.) and granddaughter.  Saturday before Mom's Day granddaughter replies all and says she will buy the last 2 things and call grandma and apologize that her present will be late because she has been very busy at work.  She thanks BIL for organizing this.

The morning of Mom' Day, SIL is not calling BIL, but replies all to the FB message and says "Didn't you guys leave anything for me to get?  Well that is ok.  I will bring mom some flowers from my garden."

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« Reply #866 on: May 14, 2013, 07:39:15 PM »


The morning of Mom' Day, SIL is not calling BIL, but replies all to the FB message and says "Didn't you guys leave anything for me to get?  Well that is ok.  I will bring mom some flowers from my garden."

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« Reply #867 on: May 14, 2013, 07:42:42 PM »
"Oh, SIL, we'd hate for you to be left out of our group gift!  If you'd like to join in, you can buy some of the pieces we bought for $$ and give those to Mom, too.  But it's totally fine if you want to do your own gift instead, we'll just make this one from the rest of us."  And leave her name off the card.
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Re: S/O Beggars, Moochers and Scammers
« Reply #868 on: May 14, 2013, 07:56:05 PM »
Saw this one this morning. People taking advantage of disabled people so they don't have to wait in line at Disneyland.

http://www.news.com.au/travel/news/rich-new-york-mums-use-disabled-to-cut-lines-at-disney-world/story-e6frfq80-1226642610144

That's interesting... at Disneyland (the article is about Disney World), the disabled do *not* get to go to the front of the line. They don't have to wait in the line, but someone in the party does and they are let in when the person in the regular line gets to the front.
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Re: S/O Beggars, Moochers and Scammers
« Reply #869 on: May 14, 2013, 08:02:35 PM »
There are many threads on the Guest Access Cards available for Disney visitors on other boards. There are different options.
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